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I usually read the *****fest and chuckle, cuz everyone else's problems make me feel better about my life, but today is a different story.

There's a new employee where I work who is how can we say, displaying subpar performance. In her defense she never got a true orientation-they just threw the poor girl to the wolves.

So everyone complains about her when she's not around, but no one takes the initiative to show her how to correctly do her job. Today, they're all whispering about her and complaining that she has a bad attitude (not exactly untrue). But its explained away as being cultural.

Excuse me?  WTF? Oh I must have forgotten, all of us Black women have ****ty attitudes.

Ha Ha Hee Hee..Yeah like my husband says..we need to be more kind sensitive and loving! Ha! Screw that!

It explains why my boss daily comes to me in wonderment and says, "Michelle you're SO nice."

Most employees just want to do a good job--rarely does a person come into a job to purposely sabotage their work and reputation.

You sound like a compassionate person--can you lead the charge to help this poor girl get her feet firmly on the ground?

Good luck to you and the co-worker.

Kim

I really want to pull her aside and put a little bug in her ear.  I just don't know her well enough to know if she'll be defensive and run to the charge nurse (the one she's had most problems with) and confront her.  I have tried to gently mention, "Oh, they were looking for you" and things like that, but she hasn't so far picked up on my hints.

1) I bought chips at the grocery store yesterday.  I know better.  I did just throw out the last 1/4 of the bag but I feel like CRAP and wish I had some sense.

2) My puppy is still coughing and the vet and vet school have no idea why and I'm so sick of it I could scream. 

3) The surgical center where my dd had her gall bladder removed (she is fine) has a rule.  Only one person allowed in post-op and no "swapping off."  So I was supposed to wait in the waiting room with her bf all morning, speak to the surgeon after surgery and then go HOME without seeing her with my own eyes?  WTF is that?  Yes I pitched a fit.  Yes I saw her in recovery.  Yes I am STILL furious.

4) I am not having any luck on the online dating sites.  Grrrr.  I just want to go out to eat and to a movie with a nice guy.  Apparently that is way too much to ask.

Thank you for this WONDERFUL public service.  I feel so much better.

~Becky

We have that rule in the recovery room I work in too. Its up to the patient to tell us who'd they'd like to see, and if they won't decide the family can flip a coin.

Once the pt makes it to their room, or back to the same day surgery area, all the family can be at the bedside. We have critical pts, and are most often recovering more than one at a time, in a limited space.

Just a perspective from the other side.

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This was outpatient surgery.  I think the rule is horrible and not at all family friendly.  I would not have been able to see her AT ALL unless I waited until they threw her in the car and saw her then.  There was no other recovery area.

I don't care if they only want one person at a time but they need to let family at least SEE their loved one in recovery if ANYONE can see them.  It causes family conflict and hurt feelings. 

If I ever had to have surgery I would have to chose between which daughter could sit with me in recovery?  I just wouldn't have surgery.  Let one come back and make one sit in the waiting room?  AND NOT SWAP OFF?  Ridiculous.  Who thinks up this ****

BAD RULE.

~Becky

The only time they make exceptions where I work is in the case of pediatric pts.  Both parents are allowed in recovery until the child is moved to the peds ward.

For our outpatients they start in Same Day Surgery, go to the OR, come to recovery, and return to Same Day surgery for an extended recovery period where they can take food and liquids, use the restroom if its a requirement of discharge, get extended pain control, etc.

The rules may not be family friendly, but the recovery room here (a level 2 trauma center) one open room, with curtains and directly connects to the OR (ie sterile hallways).  If its a busy OR day, it gets very congested and noisy, plus there are plenty of times we have isolation patients, and other factors that play into why we try to limit the traffic.

When I've worked in outpatient surgery centers things are a lot more lax as far as visitation-there isn't nearly the same amount of intensity with the types of patients in those settings.

I'm sorry you had such a bad expereince.

I was happy today becuase I got my surgery date 09/14/2011 Whoo Hooooo. But now I am a little pissed.  My work days ends at 5:30 and it is now 6:08 and I am still at work. My DH called and said he will be a little late because he is stuck in traffic. It is now 6:10 and I am still at work. That is not a little late. That is a LOT late. I am ready to freaking go home. I called him to see where he is and he is still a long ways away in traffice WTF.  Now I am stuck here doing nothing and hungry as hell. Damn.
Thanks for letting me vent.