XPOST, OT: Talk to me about rudeness . . .

Hugs! U really have your hands full. And the in-laws should be ashamed of not helping out with them! :-(

OMG your post made me respond i also have severely Autistic 11yo son and yes he screams in the store and also get's over stimulated and ppl look at me and have had the nerve to say shut up to us. Well I gave it to them with both barrels just because they look normal doesn't mean they are and more ppl need to educate themselves about disabled children

 I have a non-verbal 2 year old, for the most part he is amazing but he does NOT like strangers and when they talk to him and he doesn't respond (because he CAN'T) or he does it in sign lauange they act like I am doing something wrong b/c my kid won't smile at them or talk back (or will yell at them). He has pitched more then one fit b/c some stranger decided to get up in his face, and once he is frustrated there are very few ways to bring him back down. So yeah, I have been the mom with the cart full of grocerys and the screaming kid, and I could not give two ****s what other people think. Should I let my other kids go hungry so they don't have to listen to him (after they started it!), or should I wait until my weekends, or shop in the middle of the night OR leave my non-verbal two year old with someone who might hurt him and he can't tell me. 

Sorry for the rant, but it annoys me too. 

Shelly: there's a big difference. I've found that parents of special needs children are know when there is an issue and are aware of and attentive to child's needs. The CHILD comes first, not them.

We're all talking about the parents who, frankly, have zero parenting skills, don't give a **** about their kids, don't care if they're tired and need a nap, don't care if they're overstimulated and need to LEAVE - they only care about THEMSELVES and what THEY want. They are the ones who enter the store/restaurant with a child who is already hungry or tired and pitching a fit, yet determine that since they are the parent and, thus, more important, they will continue to what they want - child and the rest of the world be damned.

More than once I have tried to intervene with mothers who are dealing with what are clearly over-something kids: over-tired, over-stimulated, over-hungry. Mommy is either on the f-ing cellphone ignoring the kid, or screaming at him or her rather than addressing the problem. I've tried to cajole and console the child while saying to the mother something like, "I know it can be tough sometimes" and have been told to go **** myself. THAT is the kind of parent we're talking about.

Amen!  I have three on the Austism spectrum and two others and there is NO ONE to help watch the kids.  It is me and them.  

 I don't really have any peeves.  Well, I do have some, they are below.

People open doors for me, I smile and open doors for people as well.

I smile at people when I walk into stores, I always get help (unless I go to a big box store, which I avoid like the plague).

People comment at how well behaved my children are in stores and restaurants, because I trained them and drilled into their heads how to behave in public.  I have a huge social anxiety complex so my kids misbehaving is a huge trigger for me.  I'll have a panic attack if they misbehave.   I once left a grocery cart completely full of groceries in the store and left because my daughter was misbehaving, people were staring, and they wouldn't open up a new line up.  So I left!

I have left stores before with my kids because of their misbehavior.  They are seven and nine now and are rarely bad in stores.  When they are, there is hell to pay.

What does bother me is little kids, kids who make comments about my size, etc.  I know that it's just their natural curiosity but it still hurts.

The other week I was watching my kids while they were at a play day at their local school, and were in line up for an inflatable bouncy-castle ride.  A teenager walks up to me and smirks and said to me, "so are you going on the ride?", I looked at him and said no, and I said for him to stop being so condescending.  I asked him he if knew what that meant, he said no, I told him to look it up in the dictionary when he gets home.

I am also on a lot of male-dominated forums and it hurts me like hell to see them post a picture of an obese/overweight woman and completely slaughter them online.  It hurts me like hell to see people do that.  They don't do it in person, but I sure as hell know they think it when they see me and joke with their buddies after.

I also cannot stand rudeness when people are on their cellphones in a restaurant.  I'm sorry, YOU'RE MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE REST OF US.  Please, excuse us while we leave the restaurant so you can continue your loud, annoying conversation!

Finally, when I was walking in a park the other day, just dying trying to get up the hill, a little boy comes down with his family and said to me "We walk this every day!" and his mom "sshhhhhhhed" him.  Did it ever occur to them that I have bipolar disorder and the medications balooned me up like this?  Oh yeah I also have arthritis everywhere below my hips and it hurts like hell to move?

I would get a handicapped decal for my car but I could never do it for fear that somebody would say something to me about being fat and it all my fault.  :(

Imma have to friend you. I too, gained all of my extra pounds from meds but mine were pain mes from a previous surgery.

I told someone else that food is not my enemy and have no problems with it...it's the dag on meds. I can't believe I am this heavy. Thyroid and steroids....go figure. That is who I have to thank for my size 14's and 16's. These sizes are the pits. Yeah,only been 5 1/2 6 years this way but for me,this is ridiculous.

Looking for approval any day now for rny.

 You  SHOULD get a handicapped decal  .  Its NOT   your fault  Hun  ((((())))) and even if it WERE  ..so what   ?  our appetites are also caused by hormones  and  in some cases  birth defects  and not enough is  known about them .. 

in my  case  I  had a massive  congenital hiatal hernia i was BORN with that caused irritation in my esophagus and  teh self medication was to eat from basically morning till night  ...

when that was fixedalong with my rny ...  I could  actually  STOP OVEREATING. 

please dont blame Urself for Ur disability or make  things any harder on Ur hips than they HAVE to be...  

lots of love  and hugs  Ava  

It bugs me to no end that people that live in my apartment complex actually litter their fast food bags in the parking lot.  I mean, why would you trash up where you live?  It boggles my mind.  That, and the lady that leaves her patio door open with her music blaring--"sharing" I guess.

Our neighbors do that. They park one of their 10 cars (they have no driveway) in front of our house, clean their car out, then throw all their **** on our lawn. After the last time they did it, I bagged it up, walked next door, tossed it on their lawn saying, "I believe this belongs to YOU" and walked away. They haven't done it again, but plenty of other people have taken their place.