Are they lost?

Maryellen R.
on 6/30/11 9:29 pm - Sayville, NY
 Are they lost?

I have had so many positive experiences since my weight loss surgery 5 years ago. I have met so many wonderful friends during that time. I founded LIPO four years ago and have nurtured it and watched it grow to fulfill one of my “new" life’s dreams. I feel fantastic, suffering no co-morbidities and have participated in physical activities that I never would have imagined. I dance, I bowl, ice skate, complete 5K walks, bicycle, and exercise on a regular basis. My partner, Frank and I started this company, HELP, to offer WLS patients support and products to help them reach and maintain their goals. Aligning ourselves with some of the “best" and most talented people in the United States assures me that our success will be guaranteed and we WILL be able to “give back" to our WLS family.  Life is better than I ever hoped possible. I am blessed in so many ways!

It is NOT enough!

I feel a deep emptiness and concern when I ask myself, “Are they lost?" I refer to those that I am not seeing at group sessions or conventions; the ones that aren’t part of our virtual world. Of the thousands of surgeries performed over the last 15 years how can I reach those that see themselves as failures and no longer participate in aftercare? Have they suffered some weight regain and are now reluctant to attend meetings? Have they labeled themselves as unsuccessful and have they given up? Do theyknow about the possibility of revision surgery? Do they know, with support, they can get back on track?Do they realize we can start over?
Are they lost?

START OVER!
If you've started out in pursuit of your goal
And you've really tried with your heart and your soul,
but somehow things got out of control ---
START OVER.
When you've tried your best to do what you should
And you thought this time that you surely would,
But once again, you didn't do good ---
START OVER.
When you've worked so hard to follow a dieter's way
And you fought to win a victory each day
But one more time you went astray ---
START OVER.
When you've tried so hard to yourself to be true
And do the things that you know you should do
But once again you failed to come through ---
START OVER.
When the road to success seemed much too long
And each temptation was oh so strong
And once again you gave in to wrong ---
START OVER.
When you've told your friends what you planned to do
And trusted them to help you through
But soon discovered it's up to you ---
START OVER.
When you know you must be physically fit,
But your hope seems gone and you're stuck in a pit
That's not the time for you to quit ---
START OVER.
When the week seems long and successes few
And at weigh-in time you're feeling blue
Remember tomorrow is just for you ---

START OVER
To start again means a victory's been won
And starting over again means a race well run
And starting over again proves it can be done
So don't just sit there ---
START OVER. (Author Unknown)

I want to reach out to those that feel they are lost. I want to be part of their support and help them get back on track or start over. I hope some that reads this knows of someone struggling and needs a re-introduction to aftercare. If not here or LIPO, search for some supportYou are not lost!
We have all stumbled on our journey; pick yourself up, find the path and start over.

 

(((HUGS)))
Maryellen

 
Maryellen
To visit LIPO (Long Island Post Ops) bariatric support group website click here: www.liponation.org

"WLS is a journey, not a destination (don't get comfortable) ... it's a road that we must travel daily to succeed".  Faith Thomas

visit my blog at theessenceofmaryellen.com/

Kim S.
on 6/30/11 9:49 pm - Helena, AL
Your message is good, and what you are doing to give back is awesome!  Unfortunately there are still too many people allowed to have WLS thinking it is a 'miracle cure'.  Much more needs to be done to ensure people are ready to truly change their lives forever. 

Keep fighting the good fight!  If only one person is touched and changed by your message, then that is success!!

Kim
             
     
Maryellen R.
on 6/30/11 10:06 pm - Sayville, NY
 THANK YOU Kim!

Your message mean a lot to me!

(((HUGS)))

Maryellen
To visit LIPO (Long Island Post Ops) bariatric support group website click here: www.liponation.org

"WLS is a journey, not a destination (don't get comfortable) ... it's a road that we must travel daily to succeed".  Faith Thomas

visit my blog at theessenceofmaryellen.com/

Maryellen R.
on 7/1/11 5:03 am - Sayville, NY
martitalinda
on 6/30/11 10:33 pm
 Thank you.... thank you ... thank you... thank you for taking the time to write this and to pay it forward in such awesome ways.

I ALWAYS read all your messages and I look forward to your quotes.  Your messages are AWESOME and are good lessons to practice in every day living ... I read them all always and learn a lot from them....hopefully today you will reach out to many as you have everyday to me.

Please continue to pay it forward in such awesome ways my beautiful sista! You ARE beautiful indeed.

View more of my photos at ObesityHelp.com

autumnsiggy2RNY 2/5/07 no regain having implemented lifestyle changes....

 

Maryellen R.
on 7/1/11 5:05 am - Sayville, NY
 GRAZIE Maritalinda!

(((HUGS)))

Maryellen
To visit LIPO (Long Island Post Ops) bariatric support group website click here: www.liponation.org

"WLS is a journey, not a destination (don't get comfortable) ... it's a road that we must travel daily to succeed".  Faith Thomas

visit my blog at theessenceofmaryellen.com/

M M
on 6/30/11 11:18 pm
(deactivated member)
on 6/30/11 11:33 pm - Bayonne, NJ
I don't think a lot of people are lost, I think they're out living life and don't feel the need to associate with large groups of people. My life isn't defined by my surgery. I pull away from OH because I have other things to do. I joined in 2002 to do the research necessary to make the decision on my surgery, and after surgery was done and I didn't need much help, I left to live life. I came back when I needed to find out if my problems were something that others were having, and when I did that research, I made my choice, looked for help - but I'm barely here anymore because again, I'm living life.

I think the tone in this post is rather evangelical and assumes that all people a. need the group help and b. want the group help but might be too lost to find their way. Um, sounds like the preacher who thinks that everyone needs to find their way to his particular brand of God.
Yes, I am sure there are people out there who need this particular type of help, but not everyone does. I don't define my life in narrow channels. The surgery was a tool, it's been utilized, and I'm busy. I drop in now & again to offer some advice to others with problems like the ones I had.  I wouldn't, however, join an air breather's convention, either.
learning more everyday
on 7/1/11 12:20 am
I don't come on OH very often anymore. I am out doing my own thing. I camp most weekends, travel between Florida and Tennessee a couple times a year and currently I am working on planning my wedding for March. At the same time I am putting the finishing touches together for the WLS group cruise that is put together for September of this year.
I am still working on losing weight, I still hate my band, however I am still down 40 lbs since surgery. It has been over 2 years since banding, and talking about it isn't going to change things for me, only thing that will change it, is the ability to get it out. I can not eat most days, and those days that I can it is great.
Have had lapband for 3 years, ready for it to be gone... Just like my ex husband and I did, we are getting a divorce.
 

JodieBlonde
on 6/30/11 11:51 pm - Mesquite, TX
I'm not lost.  Never was.  Never will be. 

I attend at least one OH conference every year, this year will be NOLA in September.  I've belonged to "support groups", found they weren't anything remotely "supportive" and removed myself from said groups.  I've recently started attending another support group that so far seems to be truly SUPPORT driven.  Fitness, vitamins, protein - all the right stuff!!  (Go NTx Chapter - BBGC!!)  No gossip session, no glittery shoes, no rainbows - straight up, straight talk!

I wake up everyday thankful I found MY surgery, MY surgeon and MY new life.  I have a very special group of friends that I never would have met without OH.  WE are OUR support.  WE know each other, WE get each other, WE support each other.

HELP is a great idea and I sincerely it grows into everything the founders expect and want it to be.  I'll be anxious to see how many HELP'ers make themselves available to "the lost" in NOLA. 

Lost?  Nope, not me.  Living life! Outside. The. Box.
                      
  
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