Intimacy before and after surgery

Your attitude may change once you have surgery and regain your confidence....you may not put up with this sort of abuse and he may find himself without a wife at all...surgery will change you, not him. You might consider going to counseling in the meantime to sort things out.  Hope it goes well for you.

I hope I change for the better. Thank you for writing to me.

Crystal ball: You're going to change, you're going to decide that you're worth more than the crap he dishes, you're going to find someone else (or a few someone elses) to be intimate with and he will be ditched, legally or not

I wish I did have a crystal ball, I hate not knowing what tomorrow will bring. I put my trust in God, because I know he will lead me the right way. Thank you.

 It's hard for most people who are not obese to understand it.  It's not a moral failure.  It's so easy for somebody who does not get it to be unsupportive.  I have heard it said that on wedding days, women have great hopes of how their fella will change, Men hope their lady won't change at all.  A successful couple is going to have to give each other room to change.  It will be important that your priorities be first and foremost, you and your kids. Good luck on your journey, no matter how it shakes out with you two, you have made a conscious decision to improve your life.

It is hard, because I keep thinking about all the years I have invested, but then again I also look at how my situation can change within a blink of an eye. I just take it one day at the time. I am so appreciated of all the commits I have gotten, because I honestly didn't know if I was over reacting or not. I just know how I feel, and how I feel after. Sometimes I feel very lonely because this is something I don’t discuss with friends or family. Only a few people really know. Thank you so much.