Why *I* Bothered

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on 4/10/11 3:00 am
Go crawl back under your Rock of Shame, you ******g attention *****
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on 4/10/11 3:29 am
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on 4/10/11 3:35 am
On April 10, 2011 at 9:55 AM Pacific Time, MyLady Heidi wrote:
Apparently my point was lost on even you, it was why bother to have wls if you aren't willing to change whatsoever, if you aren't willing to give up some things that made you fat in the first place, if you get a second chance and get somewhere much thinner and they start all over the **** that made you ******g fat.  That was my point, why ******g bother?  WLS isn't a miracle, you can out eat a DS or a RNY any of them if you want too.  You have to choose what you want from this and what you are willing to sacrifice, and if lying on the table and death being one of the outcomes isn't an option for you, then get up and try something else.  No one should have wls and expect its going to do all the work and you don't have to do anything or give up anything.  You can expect to regain if you don't change or diet or whatever when the magic wears off.  That is, was and always will be my point, not that I give a ******g rats ass what anyone has to say about my posts.  Never have and never will.

Oh yeah have a spectacular day, I plan too, photography it is for me.

Well, my magic has not worn off at almost 6 years out, neither has Ms Batt's at even farther out. 

I know that you can gain weight with a DS if you eat twinkies by the case but I eat good meals and don't count calories.  I did not have to change anything other than get off the high carb diabetic diet that the 'medical professionals" had me on for so long.  I can eat anything, with some things being moderated but not 'off limits'.  I have nothing off limits and even ate a Twinkie once, just because I could not because I like them. My surgery has done oh, about 90% of the work.

I am so sorry you are so miserable.

Oh yeah, have a spectacular day and don't get too hungry while you are snapping your pics.

Michele
MsBatt
on 4/10/11 11:03 am
Heidi, I agree with you in some areas, disagree with you in others.

Regarding change---I had WLS, and specifically the DS, because I'd spent most of my life TRYING to change, without success. I am NOT good at denying myself---I SUCK at it, in fact. If I had been ABLE to give up the things that made me fat in the first place---and in my case, that would have been EVERYTHING---then I wouldn't have needed WLS.

I didn't eat badly, pre-op---I just ate far too much, because I was literally hungry ALL THE TIME. I ate a well-balanced diet, even ate protein first, because I am a  born carnivore. Yes, I did eat sweets, and yes, I still eat them now, too.

I'd DONE sacrifice, and it DID NOT WORK. I could NOT sacrifice long-term. And I was sick to death of trying it. I DID have WLS expecting it to do most of the work, because I was through dieting.

If you choose to starve yourself, go ahead. Obviously you value being a size 4 as much as I value enjoying my food. So far, my 'magic' has't worn off. If it ever does, then I'll do what I have to in order to remain HAPPY.

And thank you, I DID have a spectacular day. I worked in my garden, played with my dogs, and ate three nice meals. By the time I have my evening snack, I'll have consumed about 2700 tasty calories today, and will regret not one of them.
Elizabeth N.
on 4/10/11 5:01 am - Burlington County, NJ
I "bothered" because I was DYING. I lost 100% of my excess weight and am living with a OH HORRORS KILL ME NOW *insert dramariffic icon* rebound of eight percent.

I fail to understand why this should make me suicidal or send me on a starvation diet or a gym binge. I decided to hit the gym, yes....to build muscle mass. The scale didn't send me there. The realization that I had an unacceptable amount of muscle loss sent me there. It's getting lots better after less than two months. I LOVE progress.

Guess what? The scale hasn't budged. Hand me some more gourmet olives and cheese. I love my DS. Life is good.
Elizabeth N.
on 4/10/11 5:03 am, edited 4/10/11 5:04 am - Burlington County, NJ

ARGH deleted due to double post.

mollypitcher08
on 4/10/11 10:10 am
Agree with Mary Catherine and other posters ! I can only hope to develop half of your terrifc attitude! Great post, thanks for the inspiration and reminder to be thankful for what we do have! Mary
Katie K.
on 4/10/11 11:16 am - Grand Haven, MI
What a wonderful post!! I attempted to create about 20 rows today for my Veggie garden and was whooped after 8 of them... knees, hips, back, feet... they were done..

I love reading your stories of what in life has changed for you and how good it feels to go through a day of gardening, dog playing etc... and not think about it until later that you just accomplished it... not a thought about how MUCH farther you HAVE to go... or would your husband be upset with you if you were not able to finish all the rows...

Thanks to you! All of you.... such an inspiration every single time I start to get a tad nervous about surgery.
"Nobody will fault you for trying" - My mother
Seminar: 1/8/2011. Initial Appt: 1/27/2011. Behaviorist: 1/31.2011. Surgeon 1/31/2011
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MsBatt
on 4/10/11 11:20 am
Hey, if my husband had ever gotten upset because I couldn't finish something---well, that might have had me calling a lawyer, not a doctor. (*grin*)

Whatcha planting? And how long ARE those rows? I'm a big believer in working a while and resting a while.
maryposa
on 4/10/11 3:13 pm - Orange County, CA
 MsBatt that was a wonderful post.  Thank you for sharing with us :)
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(Lost slowly and painfully from 355 to 275 from 2007-2009, then started gaining again before scheduling surgery!  Best thing I ever did! :D)
         
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