Why *I* Bothered

"well, one might ask why bother having WLS if you are still going to be miserable about eating."

Absolutely. I'm an atheist, but the Christian Bible has a passage in it about how Christians will be called to account for the pleasures they could have had but didn't.

that's interesting, do you know where in the bible?

I went and read LH's thread - and OMG. all I got is a truck load of pity for that woman. she is SO ****** up it's unreal.  miserable, judgmental, paranoid...GAH get some therapy!

thanks for sharing your story Ms Batt, I didn't know you had been so disabled as a pre-op. anyone with a bit of mental health can see what a success you are.

No, but I'm gonna try to find it. Back when I wasn't a heathen, my preacher used to quote it all the time. (*grin*)

I'm with you re Heidi. Not that I could imagine ever being a size 2, but to get upset about being a size 4 instead? The only thing I've ever had that was a size 4 had an X after the number. (*grin*)

In truth, when I was that disabled, I didn't realize just how bad it was---it sorta snuck up on me, y'know? Then when things got better---SO much better!---it really screwed up my head for a while. I see people asking if WLS changes one's personality, talking about becoming a *****I'm a LOT less *****y now that I feel so much better. (But I can certainly be a ***** when the situation calls for it, LOL!)

You are still a success story even though you have not lost 100% of excess weight. I don't think any surgery guarantees 100% loss. Look how far you have come. I think it is great that you "bothered" to get the surgery.

I would still like to lose more weight but I have lost 77% of excess body weight with a band, so thats also a success considering band % is much lower. I am glad that I "bothered" to have WLS.

There are some who like to say "...why the hell did I have WLS, not to stay fat, that's for sure!"  and will (personal experience) come down on those who are satisfied to have improved their lives even if that means we are overweight!  They will put it out there that their surgery choice is the best because....and state that it is the only surgery that will get you to goal and get you there. 

My story is much like yours MsBatt...bad knees, bad back, very little mobility...I can do so much more now that I am down 68 lbs and I look forward to losing more, but if I never lose another pound, I will be happier than I was at 290.

I think the first year following surgery its very easy to get caught up in the "oh ive lost all this weight" im never going to gain an ounce, frame of mind where the number on the scale or the size of clothing can take over.

I have come to the point in my journey that i dont want to live on just meat and meat alone, just to be a certain size i did sugery to get my health back to be able to get out and walk and move instead of remaining the hermit i had become because of the pain i was in if i did go even to a store to buy groceries

I did gain weight over christmas  (5lbs)  by eating junk food,  i think it was a lesson well learnt that i can not just allow my self to eat "what ever i like" on a continual basis, but i dont want to live my life just eating meat to have to stay at a set weight either..

So i have decided if it means taking a hit  with a few extra pounds to be able to eat half of whole wheat sandwhich for lunch or half a cup of oat bran for breakfast, To be able to enjoy some barbeque brisket or ham steaks or ribs for dinner, or a few bites of potatoe at a restaurant occassionally, then ill accept that hit

I have given up most take out food and will keep it that way, apart from the odd slice of pizza maybe a couple of times a year..

I think lately there seems to be alot of questioning of if are we deserving to get surgery, or why bother ... I never thought id get to a size 4 in pants when i started  i was thinking it would beyond my wildest dream to get to a 7 and was more than happy to get back to a 8-10 ..

But what is more important than the clothes was to be able to get out and walk around with out pain.

 so I applaud you for your attitude,

That almost brought me to tears! I am so so happy for you! I can truely undestand what you mean about just existing. I have kept myself from doing so many wonderful things and have missed out on so many because of my weight.

I think about all the years of picturs I have missed out on with my wonderful son due to not wanting to look fat. Now that those years have flown and hes 15, it truely saddens me.

I pray I get approved for this surgery, because I will finally be able to like myself again and make up for all the things I have missed!!!


Keep up the great work!!

Michaela

There are many different reasons we have WLS,  and many different expectations for the outcome. Some will regain.........others will not.

Congrats to you on the 170 lb. loss!