I'm broken
I couldnt imagine having 3 wls, I feel for you but I hope someone sees this as a learning lesson, the wls is only a tool and I see you wrote you can eat large amounts of food you have to be able to stop yourself and I am not saying it's not hard but when you see yourself doing something you know doesn't feel right you have to have the strenght to say no but it comes from within and its even harder if you got other issues going on. good luck
I'm sorry to be so blunt because clearly you are hurting, but the plain truth is that the three surgeries did not fail, you failed to change the way you eat and address the psychological/emotional issues behind the weight. No matter how much you eat, the food cannot fill that emptiness. Giving up food entirely will also not work. Please seek out come counseling so that you can live the happy life you deserve. You have already had multiple surgeris, so you already have a TOOL to use to lose the weight if you can get a handle on the psychological stuff that keeps you from eating in a healthy manner.
Lora
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
OrangePop, if the RNY didn't work the 1st time around, chances are it wouldn't work again. It's not the be all and end all of surgeries. Sometimes doctors just want money and don't pick what will truly work based on your specific situation.
If RNY were so fantastic for everyone, if everyone could just lose the weight and magically live without things like intestinal regrowth, the lack of malabsorption, etc, it would be great. It doesn't work for everyone! If it did, the revision board wouldn't be full of people who are looking for a fix.
I have seen people put a band over a bypass and most of them fail. There are very few success stories with that. I've seen people go for stomaphyx or ROSE, only to find that it doesn't do anything for them. It's a damned waste of money and it's crappy, money-hungry surgeons who suggest it. The only supposed success stories from people who have done that are from shills.
There are people who go in to have their rny converted to an erny or to go from proximal to distal. Some wind up pretty sick.
There are some, like me, *****vise to the DS, but there are very few surgeons who will even attempt it because of the risks.
You're not a failure. You're human. Don't beat up on yourself and don't let anyone tell you that what works for them works for everyone. It doesn't. All those people who went for the VBG years ago thought that they were doing the right thing, but the damned thing had an 80% regain rate - that is actually listed in my BCBS insurance papers - and that's why insurance companies stopped approving it.
I do hope you have someone to talk to, though, who can help you through this.
If RNY were so fantastic for everyone, if everyone could just lose the weight and magically live without things like intestinal regrowth, the lack of malabsorption, etc, it would be great. It doesn't work for everyone! If it did, the revision board wouldn't be full of people who are looking for a fix.
I have seen people put a band over a bypass and most of them fail. There are very few success stories with that. I've seen people go for stomaphyx or ROSE, only to find that it doesn't do anything for them. It's a damned waste of money and it's crappy, money-hungry surgeons who suggest it. The only supposed success stories from people who have done that are from shills.
There are people who go in to have their rny converted to an erny or to go from proximal to distal. Some wind up pretty sick.
There are some, like me, *****vise to the DS, but there are very few surgeons who will even attempt it because of the risks.
You're not a failure. You're human. Don't beat up on yourself and don't let anyone tell you that what works for them works for everyone. It doesn't. All those people who went for the VBG years ago thought that they were doing the right thing, but the damned thing had an 80% regain rate - that is actually listed in my BCBS insurance papers - and that's why insurance companies stopped approving it.
I do hope you have someone to talk to, though, who can help you through this.