** WHY EAT AROUND YOUR SURGERY***

Are you 14 years old?  "Prolly"?  Giggles?  I never put people on my block list, but damn if you're not my #1 candidate.

I hate to butt in here, but I can't help it. The poster *****sponded to your question spent a considerable amount of time and energy addressing your question. I thought her response was quite clear - she explained why she does what she does, very clearly, and what her own issues were. And yet, you responded again very rudely, IMO, by just shouting "WHY TRY IT!!!!!". In case you are new to the internet, using all caps and lots of exclamation points are the equivalent of screaming at someone. Just because her very personal explanation and response was not to your liking shouldn't have resulted in you screaming back at her.

I was going to respond to your original question, but your very rude responses to almost everyone on this thread don't warrant the effort. I'm sure any poster who gives you an answer you disagree with, which I just might, will be attacked in a similar fashion. Why don't you yell at the people at your support group "WHY TRY IT!!!!" if it bothers you so much? They are the ones, after all, who are displaying the behaviors that you find so abhorrent.

I wish you the best on your journey. Good luck.

Norma, I'm not sure if you are talking about my response or BLR's, but thank you. I did try to be eloquent and caring in my response, and in no way tried to put the OP down in my original response to her. I'm somewhat shocked by her "take" on my comments about waiting until she is postop. I meant what I said in no way as a put-down. My comment was based on what I've seen in my three and a half years on this site, and my own personal experiences. The opening post elucidates many of my own personal thoughts in the eight months I was on this site pre-op. I thought those things. I didn't UNDERSTAND, and I know that most pre-ops wouldn't understand. I also know that postop, particularly from six months onward, my eyes were truly opened, and I UNDERSTOOD the seemingly "bad" behavior of so many postops. I realized what it was like to have an entire lifetime left to live. To be tempted, and yes, to sometimes give in. It all fell into place once I was there, once I experienced dumping, and restriction, and the absence of any noticeable hunger (still looking for my appetite, but I haven't found it).

I think it is sad that the OP could not understand how many people were being supportive to her, helpful, understanding. How awful her behavior has been, how judgemental, and even vile - poking fun at the pictures of postops. It just doesn't make sense to me. But it is what it is. I'm glad I kept my wondering to myself, but I believe that I would never have gone psycho like that if I'd bothered to ask and got so many thoughtful responses.

You're welcome, my response applied to both yours and BLR's, but after reading the rest of thread, I realize mine too was a waste of time as it seems that she just wants to play games and provoke people.

I hear justification all over the place.
you have been a member for a long time.

Are you back eating the junk food ?????  Is that what I am hearing?

what do you mean you hear justification all over the place. 


define what you think it justification and then what's being justified

and define junk food...

I justify eating whatever the heck I want.....

I have an eating disorder.

I DO NOT EAT.... that's a disorder. I don't know if it's Anorexia or some other disorder. But it is a real disorder with real and deadly consequences. I fight against it by doing everything I can to try to get calories in....ANY calories from ANY source so that I won't continue to lose weight. If that is justification than so be it. Until I actually consistently GAIN weight, and get to my target weight of 160 or 165, I'm not going to worry about too many calories. Worrying about calories and the inabililty to feel hunger have left me in a very dangerous place. Is that a GOOD justification to you? 

So I give myself PERMISSION to eat. And...sometimes.... I eat. If my husband didn't make it an issue, I'd probably have 300 calories a day (because the only thing I drink is protein shakes).

So.... justification?

Today I've had 1/2 a piece of pizza, three protein shakes, and two 90-calorie cereal bars. If the pizza is 300 calories (I'm sure it's less), that makes my calorie consumption at 780 calories. That would be AWESOME if I was in the weight loss phase. When trying to GAIN weight, this is a disaster. I'll probably have about 200 more calories before I go to sleep.

I'm not eating JUNK food, I'm consuming calories and fighting a disorder.

Those *****gain most or all of their weight have DIFFERENT issues than eating an occasional cookie, cheesecake, or piece of chocolate. They have MENTAL issues and/or MECHANICAL issues. It's easy to ask WHY, but impossible to "GET" if you aren't there. do you think I'm cheering to the hills that I have issues with losing too much? Pre-op I thought it was a great problem to have. NOW? It's a serious problem. It's affecting my entire LIFE. My health. It's not good. It's not fun. It's not great to have the chance to eat whatever I want. It's dismal. Those who have issues with regain and/or mechanical failure... you can't understand their trials and tribulations until and unless you walk in their shoes. You are being judgemental and hurtful and seem to think that when we say "wait until you are there" we are dissing you. We're just saying that you canNOT possibly understand the situation until you are walking the walk. Fact. Not insult. FACT. My heart goes out to EVERYONE who has found that WLS isn't the walk in the park and the land of perfection that they dreamed of preop.

Frankly, YOU aren't hearing ANYTHING. You perceive insults where there are none. You insult the weight loss of those who are trying to help you. You giggle like a mental patient (seriously). Rather than listening to the sincere and heartfelt and GOOD advice you are receiving here, you simply respond to PERCEIVED insults with REAL ones. You have insulted almost every single postop who comes here merely to help the new-ops and pre-ops. People you will find helpful, but who you diss. You will have a lonely lopsided experience on this website if you continue in this vein.

Good luck with your surgery. You'll need it.

Right on Lithia!!!

I sincerely hope she can get her head at least a little bit right. 

Do you hear that Mary?  We want you to succeed, but you are making it almost impossible for folks to support you.  Support isn't always what you want to hear, it just might be what you NEED to hear.