** WHY EAT AROUND YOUR SURGERY***
I am so glad to hear your diabetes is in control and that you have figured out just the right amount that doesnt hurt you. This is inspiring to me.
Thank you so much for your post.
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"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
I had this surgery to lose weight, be healthy and live a normal life. You are right, if I can't have a cookie or whatever else I crave in moderation once in awhile how can I be living a normal life ? 
size 8, life is great
It is not a conscious decision to sabatoge yourself. Take care and best wishes on how you handle your surgery in days and years to come.
Z
With 
I will succeed.
HW: 280 - LW: 190 - GW - 180
Unfilled 8/15/11 - WT: 209
1st Fill 11/29/11 - WT: 215.5 - 3cc
2/20/12 - New Goal - Get n Onederland
2nd Fill 4/26/12 - WT: 224.0 - 3cc
Z
Hope your doing well with your band. wishing you the best.
I am excited about surgery, I have learned so much, I have talked about it so much.
I do have some fears and I am totally ready to move forward like all of you with this journey.
I have a variety of people that I am excersising with, I have wonderful people in my life that I can call and talk about WLS with, I love my therapist... We are well established, I love my bariatric support group but was a little annoyed with the whiners eating and complaining and doing nothing about it last night. My meeting with the surgons this past saturday ( ALL 3 surgeons) said we have to work at it. I dont have any tolerance for people who act out and complain and do nothing about it. Hopefully this is a defect of character I can work on.
We are here to change our behaviors right>? I have a lot to change and having said that... change one at a time....
I totally respect all the people *****sponded that they eat a lil chocolate or a cookie once in awhile BUT DONT ACT OUT ON IT which gives them a sense of normal lifestyle.
What I also shockingly saw is RUDE PEOPLE to newcomers who I also welcome because I DONT WANT TO BE LIKE THEM HERE ON OH OR ANYWHERE IN LIFE..... I am done with obesity and the arrogance and anger that comes with it.
I dont have expectations, I just have normal fears at my stage is all. I think some forgot and putting down the fear simply just doesnt help matters.
I wish everyone success... :)))))
Hope your doing well with your band. I look forward to my sleeve. I went through 72 hours alsmost switching my surgery. I am glad I finally worked through it as too I shall work through this issue triggered by me last night.
GOD BLESS ALL OF US
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"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
Saying, "I'm never again going to eat x - it is bad", seems like recipe for certain failure. How many birthdays can a person tolerate without enjoying a bite of cake. How many Thanksgivings without a bite of pumpkin pie? Maybe you can keep that up for a year or two, but probably not 5 or 10. There are few people who can truly go through their entire lives never again enjoying a treat.
But I see that a lot of WLS folks set themselves up thinking that they will be able to refrain forever. Then, when they inevitably break down and eat something "bad", even if it's just a small portion, it can often start a spiral. They start eating all the foods they missed. They figure they messed up and fell off the wagon anyway, so why not eat whatever.
This is why moderation is the key for me. There is no food off-limits. There is no wagon. I just try to make smart choices most of the time.
On the other hand, I realize there are some people who consider themselves food addicts for which this strategy does not work. Everyone has to find their balance, but for me, it is moderation.
Please understand that I do NOT believe I am going to never and really do not know why you come up with this.
Just know in my preop newbie behavior, I have fear eating around surgery and I am not even there yet. I hear it all the time in my FACE TO FACE MEETINGS.
I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT THE PEOPLE WHO ENDULGE MODERATELY... DO YOU UNDERSTAND NOW???????
For those PEOPLE >>>>>>>> WHY TRY IT?????
✿ L♦O♦V♦E ✿ & ✿ P♦E♦A♦C♦E ✿ღ ✿ & F♦R♦I♦E♦N♦D♦S ✿ ღ
"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
To be honest, I have to tell you that I don't understand. I am having difficulty grasping your point, sincerely.
On the one hand, you are saying that you don't believe a person can abstain forever and you're not saying "never". On the other hand, you keep saying "why try it?". Well, why not? If you aren't saying "never". I guess I'm confused because those seem like completely contradictory statements.
Either it is realistic for people to permanently abstain from certain foods, or it isn't. I say it isn't.
