O/T how to handel a BTCH at work

Thank you very much

i am the office manager of a law firm of 78 people.  I can tell you that it is inappropriate for your boss to be repeating stories however I recommend you and your boss have a heart to heart talk.  Explain what your concerns are and that she is privy to personnel records, including salaries and taking advantage of that knowledge.  All you can do is do the best job you can and your supervisor will see that.  These people exist in every office not just yours.  good luck

maryjo

I thought about telling my boss that, but based on the fact that he told me what she said; I fear that me telling him this will do nothing but make matters worse should he tell her what I said. 

This seems so childish.  I just wish everyone could come to work, mind their own business and get the job done. 

Wow, that's really a tough position for you to be in, and sorry to hear you're having such yuck to deal with in your work life.

But shame on your "boss" for repeating the conversation in the first place. Big no no! And he should have taken steps to manage the BTCH and adjust her attitude - that's HIS job. I'm glad you know he's pleased with your performance, but wonder what his goal was in telling you what had been said. I can't see that it served any purpose other than to create disharmony in the ranks! Totally a poor move on his part in more ways than one, and repercussions may not be pretty. If the BTCH finds out he told you what she said, there might be heads rolling. Your boss was very, very unprofessional and needs a course in management!

I went through courses mandated by my employers for all employees called "Dealing With Difficult People." Perhaps you should ask your boss to see about providing the seminar at your office? And he should be first on the list to take it, in my humble opinion. Ahem.

As far as the BTCH goes, consider the source. Smile, hold your head up, and keep doing a great job. The woman obviously is jealous of you and feels threatened. But step above her childish behavior and show your own maturity.

It's always hard emotionally when a "good friend" stabs you in the back. Hugs ...that part just sucks.

As I mentioned above, I am now a bit leary of talking to my boss since he repeated what she said.  Who knows what he would say.  I can tell you I learned a BIG lesson here: 

I will no longer say anything to anyone.  I will just go to work, do my job and leave.  In the meantime, you can bet I will be looking for another job.

walk up to the ***** pull her hair out, smack her in the face and then for good measure kick her in the crotch.  Feel better yet?  Virtual images are fun aren't they?  Of course I am only kidding.  I would simply thank her for the info and take a page out of her book and research for your answers go to payables or really go online and see if you can find the info.  As far as your boss you know who not to confide in. And salary discussions are reasons people get terminated so do not feed into that with anyone.  I go in, do my job, myob tell everyone on friday to have a nice weekend, collect my check and start over on monday.  And when people bring their personal **** to work looking for advice I say to them wow gee I am really sorry you're going thru this I don't know what to tell you and move on.  They are your co-workers not your friends. I wouldn't confront her because she would just go crying to the boss and then where would you be.  Kill her with kindness and be professional she won't know how to react but you don't care by that point.

I loved to hire qualified people that had been one place for a long time and told me they were just looking for new challenges and the opportunity to learn something new. I loved that gumption! And job stability was a big red "hire me" sign that didn't escape my eagle eye.

I'd say you are smart to have a look around, but if you like where you are, don't let the BTCH scare you off. That's prolly what she's hoping for, but I'd dig my heels in and refuse to budge if I really liked my job and trusted my boss.

Hugs and hopes that today is a better one!