O/T how to handel a BTCH at work

Yes this person does have access to payroll so that is why she knows that salaries for everyone.  The thing is she tells me what other people make and is not supposed to.  This should have been my first clue that she is not to be trusted. 

It's just so childish.

U don't have to sit back and ignore it. She's talking **** on u. I'd ask her why she said that. U don't want to lose your job because of her.

You have no idea how much I want to tell her where to go, but I think it may make things worse.

My question is how should I handle this?  Should I just ignore her?  Should I confront her and ask her if she has a problem with me?



Tell your boss that you gave your previous conversation some thought.  Ask if there's anything that management would like to see you do differently regarding your job performance and then do it.  This will demonstrate to them that you are cooperative and open to constuctive criticism.       

Say nothing about it to the coworker and make sure you're doing your work well.  Behave like a professional and give her a great big fake smile every day.  Do not engage in drama in the workplace.  Give her no ammunition to use against you.

There is a book that I would recommend to you:  The Ten Commandments of Working in a Hostile Environment by T. D. Jakes.  It was very helpful to me when I had to work with some people that didn't have good sense. 

This is the best advice.  Great stuff So Blessed.  Esp about approaching the boss this way and asking her aobut your performance.  This shows you care about your job and want to do the best job you can for them.  Avoid the co worker, but be civil and smile when you have to see her.  Do not make this an issue.  Bosses do not like workplace drama. 

Yes, I did ask my boss if they were "happy" with my job performance and he said he was and not to worry about it. 

Thanks for the book you recommended.  I will definitely get a copy.  I can't stand drama in the work place and feel like I am being sucked into this one........... (big sigh......)

MauiGirl, here are the topics covered in the book: 

1. Know that you are anointed for the job or position you now hold
2. Don't expect to be appreciated
3. Embrace opportunities for change
4. Do the job well while remembering the vision
5. Don't let the environment get inside of you
6. Increase your capacity to work with difficult personalities 
7. Where you are is not where you are going
8. Achieve optimal results with minimal confusion
9. Do not pledge allegiance to cliques and groups
10. Always keep your song near you

Wow, i must get this book.  Thanks for sharing this info.  I really respect TD Jakes and didnt know he had a book like this.

I would agree that - if you are actually worried about your performance (which I doubt) - you should approach and ask about any specific problems.

However, with the B**CH - kill her with kindness. Seriously, people like that get very uncomfortable when people are nice to them in spite of their nastiness. Go out of your way to say good morning, ask how her day it, ask if you can help her with anything, get a cup of coffee - etc. Compliment her hair, her outfit, etc (even if you have to tell a little white lie)It might kill you, but it will kill her more. The last thing you want to do it is fuel the fire and start any contention.

The point is she wants this to bother you. She would like an confrontation, but dont do it. Ignore her. My friend is going through this with five other women in her workplace. They told the boss the same thing. However her work speaks for her.

However when one of them got in her face. She wrote a letter to HR that she felt like she was in an hostile work environment. It did not do any good. So she just does her job which she does very well. She know it better than they do even the supervisor. They always need her help. Now she tells them she dont know or not sure about their questions.

As long as she cannot sabatage your work. I would jus****ch my back when it comes to her. Dont let her know it bothers you. Do not let your guard down.

Did her boss tell u what she said?
My friend made up a noteball with details outlining evrything she does and gave it to the boss. In a meeting they told the boss she dosent do enough work. he told them all to do it, she is the only one who gave boss outline of her dutities.

No weapon formed against u shall propsper. God will make your enemy a stepping stone for u. Keep your cool. She wants u to lose it 
Dont do it!!
I will also pray about the situation.