Calling my secretary to ask if I had Surgery???

Love the color food scheme idea...hee/hee

That's SO awesome, I love it!

I have to say that I totally agree with "mkbeany".  It truly is NONE of anyone's business, but if asked I always tell the truth about how I lost the weight.  More times than not, I'm asked by someone who is in trouble and truly seeking weight loss.  I would do anything - including sharing my experiences - to help someone who is really seeking an answer for themselves.  I do tell them to go and do the research and pray about it.  This route is not for everyone.  Prior to my surgery, I shared my info with my family and closet friends that I could trust.  However, I knew that if I was asked, I would tell the truth as to what I'd had done.  Personally, I believe that this surgery saved my life.

All the best to you and your situation.  I'm sure that it will all work out.  If you bring more attention to the situation by speaking with a supervisor, I think that will fuel her curiosty even more.  And yet, if she finds out about your wls on her own, undoubtedly she will want to know "why" you lied and take it that you are ashamed of what you've done.... 

Take care,
Rose

I would pull her aside along with her supervisor (don't do it one on one)  and tell her point blank that your health and weight issues are not her concern.  I would also put her on notice that if she continues she will be reported for harrassment.  That her behavior of calling your secretary to check up on your "statement" to her is unprofessional, inappropriate, and boarders on stalking. 

It either stops here or you will file a formal complaint.

BTW is she overweight?  Could this be her inappropriate way of wanting more information?

Wish you the best of luck,
Jackie

Do you not remember the Fall of Star Jones! Oh my! It is hard to keep something like this a secret. Why hide it? Everyone knows if you lose a significant amount of weight you got to have a plan and they want to know it!  Are you not proud of what you did for yourself? I know to each her own, but I told any and everyone around me; including my coworkers. I have gotten nothing but support from them. They always make my day by telling me how skinny I am! I am a poster child for RNY! If you had shared with others you might would have found that you are not the only one there that has had wls! I think you have dug a hole for yourself by saying no you didn't. Telling the truth could have set you free from uncomfortable gossip and stares. 

Just hang in there and ride it out! Your son is right, the cat is out of the bag and because of the nosey coworker there will be even more gossip because you weren't truthful. Just be ready for it and don't let it get you down. Hindsight is something else huh?

Good Luck and stay strong!

Every one I told has been supportive. I work in a smaller organisation.
Your secretary is not permitted to disclose confidential information without your consent.
This is a huge breach of privacy.

The secretary did not disclose anything...it was another co-worker that called her secretary to pry, and the secretary basically said we don't discuss things like that. 

Janet,

Yes I have already posted a comment earlier and have read all the other post.  Hearing all sides of the story or reasoning that you should do one thing over another.  I think if your work time will be affective by this person whom has caught you off guard with such a personal question during an inopportune time.  That you need to have a talk with her and include the HR person and/or her supervisor that way there is no misunderstanding.  Let her know that personal questions should stay off work time.  Then let it alone, if others ask about you and your WLS then address it at that time.  I personally told all my coworkers that I work with directly about my decision and they were behind me 100%.  I don't broadcast to anyone of all that I have done but I don't deny my choice that I made.  I know how infuriating this situation was and I was mad for you!

Good luck with whatever you decide to do!  

How sweet of you, thanks!!

I don't think making a decision to keep the details of your personal health history private is being dishonest.    And while I appreciate that many of the members here have only had supportive reactions from those around them,  I've had enough mis-informed people judging that I totally support your decision to keep your personal information personal until you choose to share it  (which may or may not be when someone else decides to ask).

When asked - I have found the following statements work well:   I am eating less.  I am exercising more.  I decided to be pro-active about my health and am working with my doctor on making healthy lifestyle changes.   

Sometimes when pressed I've responded wtih :   why do you want to know?    There is no magic secret you need to eat less calories than what you burn.

I try very hard to be open with the people who are struggling with morbid obesity.

Now as to saying you didn't have surgery when pressed by this woman ---- if you get called on that later or anyone even hints that responding in that  you were less than honest,   I would gently remind the accuser that the question was totally inappropriate ,  pointing that out it would have embarrased the asker,  and that we are all permitted to reveal private information at a time of our own choosing. 

Jody