Carne Wilson, This may be brutal

No you're not.  While Carnie can do what she wants I don't see why all the rest of us have to be dragged along in the wake of her drama when she's no more insightful about why she might have her struggles than she probably ever was her whole life.  There, I said it.

 Maybe she had the wrong surgery to begin with.   Maybe she should have had the surgery that really does do the work for you for the most part. Maybe she should have had the surgery that you dont have to get right with food...food has to get right with you.  Maybe she should had had the DS and be able to eat more normal  than any other WLS  and have the long term EWL% to back it up... maybe.. just maybe....

Ami

wow, calling someone a "load" seems really insensitive.  We shouldn't judge each other, we don't know her issues.  Yes, she is putting it out there for everyone to see so it does have to be dramatic for the viewers.  I just can't justify judging her, we've all been judged sooooo much in our lives by people thinking we are "just lazy" or some other reason we've not lost weight.  It is a struggle before surgery and it is a struggle after as well!  I wish her the best!

I feel completely neutral about Carnie's weight gain, whether it be from having 2 babies or from transfer addictions or hell, just wanting to eat.  It's the manipulation of those around her that I couldn't stand and so therefore don'****ch her show or interviews about ANY of her struggles because I never hear any self-reflections or insights there.  But that's just me...

If you do not like her then do not follow her or the show.  The same could be said about any one of us here...we were all FAT LOADS (your words ) and why?  That's juse rude.  We will all continue to struggle as she has.  She has had 2 pregnancies and like it or not, they make you keep your calories up to carry a child and produce breast milk.  After 18 months of that it is hard for anyone to get back on track.  She is human and it seems when people are "stars" they are not allowed to be so human.  I hate working out...hate it!! Force myself to do it when I do.  So I guess I am a big lazy load?  I also miss eating some things that I used to and worrying all the time if eating this will make me sick.  Its not a whine...it is life now.  Why can't we express our displeasure as women without being told me are whiney, sniveling, *****y people?  We all have the ability to have access to the best Doctors...I had the best in this area and I am not a celeb.  I also can have a great NUT and get a reasonably prices PT if I want one as can most people...they are not million dollar trainers.  I think this was nothing more than selfish jealousy and rather uncalled for, but at the same time I allow others to have their opinions...this is just mine.  

 Come on now. You have to understand that any "attitude" you heard is just to get ratings! She is an "actress" and is saying things to get a response from the public for the show. Look how much of a reaction she got from you! In the end, we all have to just do our best. Those of us who have had this surgery still have to mentally stay strong every day or we can fall backwards just like she did. If this happened to me, I would be so sad to have failed myself, and I would be doubly sad to hear anyone speak poorly of me because I didn't meet their expectations.  I hope if you are able to get the surgery, if you don't do well with it, no one puts you down. Empathy is important in life.

Statiscially speaking, Carnie is STILL a WLS success. She is still maintaining a loss of more than 50% of her excess weight.

Just curious---which WLS did YOU have, and how long ago?

We are here to support and educate each other.  Period!
My personal mantra is this:  "Just because we are on the same journey, does not mean we will all take the same path."  I have no idea what her journey is all about.  I know that food addiction is overwhelming.  Look at all of us here.  We obviously have struggled and will continue to do so.  Rather than criticizing, why just try a bit of understanding and empathy.  Carnie is still just a human being.  The temptation for her has to be even greater with her social status, lifestyle, etc.  If you do not agree with her, then do not follow her story.  Read about Carlista Lockhart or someone else with a different type of eating disorder.  Does their story make you want to call them names and criticize them?  Let's try and remember what these online support groups are all about.  I want them to be productive and supportive, not negative and judgmental.  None of us are perfect, right?  If YOU were, you would not have needed WLS right?  Neither would I, or anyone else here.  I have 3 degrees, IQ greater than 150, writing for my doctorate as we speak, and I am NOT an enabler.  I just do not believe that we all get to the same places in life by doing it exactly like everyone else.  If I do not like something, I do not feel the need to broadcast it.  Isn't that some type of psychological need too? Gosh, what if you started this thread to get a reaction, imagine that.  She might have talked about her story to do the same thing or even to improve her ratings or support her family.  I have no clue.  I am only responsible for me and how I react.  Please be kind in all things.  That is the least we can offer to each other.

DC

...for my 2 cents...I've had friends say to me....is that the surgery Carnie Wilson had? She's gained so much weight...blah..blah...blah. Welll- yeah-so did Al Roker. He looks great! I started at 259 almost 2 years ago and hang tight at 170. My New Years Resolution is to step it up and lose 11 punds so I can say I lost a 100. But , I travel this road everyday. Work out at the gym at least 3 times a week. I have struggled with getting tipsy, cleaning and organizing to excess. I have a very addictive nature. So my friends I take it one step at a time . BUT I HAVE TO BE WILLING TO TAKE THE STEPS. I just don't think she is willing to put forth effort.Once again...money can't buy happiness!

" I just don't think she is willing to put forth effort"

Just because we have the will doesn't mean we have the inner fortitude to put that will into action....for whatever reason.   I have had the "will" to lose weight all my adult life.  Sometimes I have been able to put that will into action by putting forth the effort and lose weight.  Then somewhere along the line, that "will" loses its strength and  I fall back into the old habits and regain.  That's why I am MO and need WLS.  I think it's unfair to say Carnie isn't willing to put forth the effort, because we all have been there, done that.  It's about our heads and finding that motivation again to be able to put forth the effort, or never to lose that motivation to begin wih.    It's a head war, always has been, always will be.  Right now, Carnie's head is  winning the war and she's losing the battle.  I feel for her.  I've been there, done that too many times in my life.  I hope that I don't fall back into that trap after I've had WLS.  I can say right now, today, that I won't let that happen.  But I said that every time I've lost weight in the past.  I don't know why the effort wanes.  I am fearful that I will fall back into the same pattern after WLS.  My head is where it needs to be now, but what if I lose the motiviation to put forth the effort later?  That really scares me.  Carnie needs our support and understanding.  She's one of us. 

I commend you for your success and only hope that I too can fight the head wars to win the battle as well as you have.   I wish that we could choose our transfer addictions.  I would choose exercise (or the cleaning and organizing one sounds good too).  Can we "choose" our addictions?  I don't think so, but it would sure be nice if I could.  They wouldn't be called addictions if we had that kind of control.