Carne Wilson, This may be brutal

This is gonna be brutal 

This "Load's" mind was never into it. I remember some kinda a reality show or something that she was on where she was like one of the guess hosts. Maybe it was one of those celebrity weight loss shows.

But I'll never forget how all she did was complain about not being able to eat what she wanted and how she hated working out, sweating etc. Now, some may say she was just joking, but I say it was something more sinister. She just came off like a big lazy load to me.

She was doomed to failure from the get go. She let her surgery do all the work in the beginning. And then blew up nicely.

I'm sorry, I'm not an enabler and I don't feel sorry for this "Wad"!

Even while others on this board, myself included are struggling, being denied by their insurance companies, etc.


She has access to the best Dr.'s, best NUT's, best personal trainers that some of us will never have.

Am I wrong?


 

Well, no being right or wrong about it.  We are all HUMAN, and we all put our pants on the same way:  One leg at a time.

Sometimes it doesn't matter how much of the best things you have access to, that darn human nature can rear it's ugly head.


Suzy

This may be brutal, but
 1) We don't know her real story or what she goes through.
 2) Just because she has money, that doesn't make her journey any easier, it may actually make it harder. I would hate to have the condeming public eye on me like she does.
 3) No one should be judged by anyone at anytime unless they have commited a criminal act against another.
 4) Unless we have followed her road and walked in her shoes, what can we really say?
 5) Maybe she was trying to be honest on her show, I don't know I do no****ch television. Maybe she was trying to say the hard things. I doubt if too many people who are seriously overweight say "I love working out, or there is no food I miss, or I will be happy to Never eat my favorite foods again." If they do say these things, they are either lying, delusional or not over weight lol.
 6) What has this person done to you? I try never to say anything bad about someone unless they have personally done me wrong, then Look out!

Well, I hear what you're saying.

But her attitude was coming off loud and clear.

I mean how can you "enable" that?

At some point you have to be held accountable For actions that are under your control, and say "OK, I screwed up, I didn't exercise, I didn't follow what my surgeon or NUT told me to do, etc".

I could certainly understand if her surgery went wrong.Or some other kinda of illness. Yes I'd feel bad for her. But I guess you had to see the show. 

Her attitude spoke volumes.  I read between the lines.

She also had two children post RNY.

Until you've experienced that, you really shouldn't speak to the experience.

My friend from childhood had gastric bypass (it wasn't called rny back then) over 10 years ago. She has since had 2 kids and is nowhere near being obese again.

I have always thought Carnie was really whiny...before she had WLS...
The same way Kirstie Alley appeared to me after being on Jenny Craig. Whine Whine Whine. Gah. Put on your big girl panties and deal with it.

Carnie is still a WLS success.


And how much of what we see on TV is an act, I wonder?

I have to agree, we just can't sit on our rear end's and hope it falls off. I think a lot of people are so into excuses about why they do the things they do. There does come a point where you can no longer blame others or you past. You are an adult and have to take responsibility for you own actions. Not to  say it is easy we all have demons in our past or just family members who contributed to our weight gain. YOU and you alone can determine what happens from here on in. 

A slight bend here, but I know how hard getting insurance approval can be. I am self pay, and no I do not have lots of money. I am a single mom with a part time bf. I am using my income tax to go to Mexico. You might look into something similar if it comes down to it. I would have loved to have had insurance pay for it and had it close to home, but was not an option. My pen pal has gotten Medical financing, and another friend has taken a loan against her home. I could not bring myself to do either of those. Yes, I too am irratated at how some famous people can just plunk down the money or as some have done, given endorsements and gotten it free!!!! Directing your ire at this actress is not helping, use your ire to fuel your cause. Write letters to your insurance company daily, not emails they can delete. Call them everyday, ask them what other options. Would they cover the surgery somewhere else, another form of surgery, maybe a less expensive option like out of country? Ask to talk to supervisors, make a pain out of yourself! My sister works at an insurance company, sometimes they approve people just so they don't have to deal with them anymore! My insurance plain will not cover any wls. No if's and or big butts.

 
I agree that our best weapon FOR weight loss and AGAINST regain is our minds.  We must figure out what's ailing us, emotionally, before we can be a success.  

Transfer addiction is very real - she's admitted to doing this with alcohol, shopping, and baking (which must also lead her to eating...).  

If those things which are causing us to want to bury our feelings instead of feeling them aren't addressed each and every one of us could be in the same boat.

Add pregnancy to the mix - which from first-hand knowledge I KNOW is hell on trying to lose, let alone NOT GAIN...and you've got a recipe for disaster.

I understand your frustration at trying to get a chance at health with this surgery and not being able to...it is unfair that it's so easy for some and not for others.  And it's a slap in the face that those who are fortunate enough to get that chance seemingly squander their opportunity.

I don't know how much she actually sabotages herself, but after seeing the show, it SEEMS (or they are making it seem) that she is doing a fair amount of it.  

As a baker who loves to use real sugar and real flour and a whole lot of it - I know it's a fun and entertaining thing to do.  AND I STILL DO IT...to give away.  But I also know that if I were to eat anything that I make that isn't specifically WLS friendly, I'd be right up to 350 pounds no problem.

She is obviously indulging in the foods that are counter-productive to her success...and that's where she's going to have to find another avenue or out-let for her frustrations.  Not alcohol.  No shopping.  Not drugs.  Not gambling.  Those may keep the pounds off, but are just as destructive.  

THERAPY...COUNSELING...would be a good place to start!