Why can't I have SUGAR? (I am 7wks post op RNY)

You will be another one on the boards in a year complaining...

Why would you be curious about eating cotton candy at 5 weeks out?  You are supposed to learn that cotton candy is bad prior to having the surgery...not after. You are supposed to listen to the information that they give you in the nutritional classes...not just tell them what they want to hear and nod your head and act like you undertand.

I hope this can be a learning experience for you.

Man...i haven't been on the main board in several weeks, and now I remember why.  I can't deal with the drama here.  There are way too many hypocritical self righteous people posting in the main forum, and it's just sad.  If we all were perfect, none of us would have needed WLS in the first place.  Please remember that when you immediately  jump down someone's throat for asking a question.  You can disagree, but there's a way to respond with TACT, my god, some of you need to get off your high horse.

I hope all the perfect people continue to have perfect lives post wls and perfect success daily.  Guess i'll stick to the mens and BAF boards for now.  

I usually dont post responses to this board but this one got my blood pressure up..LOL

Um....why are you wondering why your getting nasty responses when your subject line is "Why can't I have SUGAR?" I read your original post and like someone else pointed out it dosen't say anything about "3 bites". Who cares 3 or 30 bites....7 weeks, gosh when I had my surgery I was on full liquids until 6 weeks. At 7 it surely was not candy.

Well I wish you luck and hope you can make good choices from here on out.

You betcha.

I eat sugar daily - it's going to kill me or cure me yet.  

Some of us can tolerate a few more grams than others.  I can eat up to 20 grams of sugar in a meal - depending on the type of food it is.  Cotton candy?  That might equal to 1.5 cups of the stuff, because, of it's consistency.

BUT --- give me a potato?  Death.  

It's individual.

You are at goal, she is 7 weeks out from surgery.  She is in at a different point in her weight loss than you are.  I want  her to have the chance to get where you are.

" I want her to have the chance to get where you are"
This is the sticker cause,you (we) can't want it for her. She has to want it enough HERSELF to make it happen. Otherwise,it never will.
Best to all,
Holly

Hi Lisa:

First of all - I'm new. to OH.   I'm reading to learn what has worked for some / and possibly not for others, understanding that each body is unique and will have some unique outcomes.
I come as a person who's failed to follow healthy lifestyle choices - resulting in my current need for surgery.   I come as a human- with fragile feelings, low self esteem and hoping that maybe WLS (which ever version I end up choosing with the guidance of my dr, nutritionist, psychologist and surgeon, insurance and family situation) will be the tool to help me regroup and get back on track for the remainder of my life.

Your question basically is: Why am I NOT responding to a (slip in judgment-we all make those, whether in food choices or word choices!)  sugar intake through dumping, since all coaching and teaching indicates it's the  typical outcome following the ingestion of certain "trigger" foods?  

I don't have the answer.  But I can share a common message I've received from all of my team;  my PCP, Surgeon, Counselors,  Nutritionist, and Psychologist  (and I've seen echoed here by open-minded, kind coaches who have been through the journeys ahead of us)  -- Each person is different, some will easily dump, some won't.  some have that "full feeling" soon after the surgery, some don't get that for a few weeks, some plateau early, some later. And to be honest, we will slip at times and learn from those lapses.   That being said,  I would agree that a quick call to the Nut. might help identify possible reasons for your situation and/or if there is an urgent need to look at why your system doesn't respond as we would expect to sugar following your WLS.   There might be deeper physical reasons...

I'm disappointed by the lack of tact that people feel is OK to deliver their advice with... very hurtful.
I'm very disappointed at the judgment people deliver to others who chose different paths than their own... but just as each body is unique.. so are the personalities that go with them.

Lisa, I would appreciate knowing what you find out  about your ability to tolerate sugar still.
Like I said, I'm here right now reading, learning and preparing for my own journey to start, and the more I know ahead of time, the easier it will be to face the changes ahead with patience and a mental approach to succeed!  I am takeing the approach that everyone's experience will help me prepare for possible outcomes, side effects, and things to be prepared for!

:) b

 

I had my third donghut in 3 years yesterday and was beating myself up about it. I have only had 3 dounghuts since surgery and that was practically 3 years ago. Part of the responsibility and commitment to this life changing procedure is accepting a lifestyle change. I am not going to beat you up but wish you would have made a better food choice and make better choices in the future. Being this far out I have to say I have seen many many people lose weight and gain it all right back because of poor food choices. I make mistakes and human but I must say that the first year I was very by the book and did everything I supposed to do- and eating candy and other junk like cotton candy was not one of them. I wanted to utilize my tool the fullest and was fully educated on nutrition.

If i was you, I would just learn from it and move on. Start over if that is what you want to do. Ultimately however, no one controls your choices or your feelings but you and you have to make your mind up how you want to use your new tool.

Best of luck to you.

Eggface has a protein doughnut recipe looks really good :)

It is wonderful when people on OH boards take the time to respond to people whether it be with concern or support.

I find it most helpful that when we do post responses we take a moment before replying to think about the way in which we respond.  The world is always a better place when we think before we speak and just as important, speak in a way that will be received well by the other person.

Ever found yourself around someone who completely lifted you up?  Encouraged you?  Made you want to do better?  Even if you made a mistake...made you want to do better next time?  Simply because of their attitude and the wy in which they dealt with you.

I have been shamed before by people's words, I have been spoken to with little tact and diplomacy.....these are not the ways to express concern or to motivate. 

Tact, diplomacy, kindess....there are those words for a reason.  You can chastise, or "show concern" in a way that is not damaging to someone's psyche.

I think it is great that people participate on OH forums.  I have received MUCH support , help, and encouragement.  I have also witnessed some rude, ignorant, thoughtless, or careless comments.....

Perhaps we should all think about the manner in which we speak to each other.  We can always use a litte more kindness!