Why can't I have SUGAR? (I am 7wks post op RNY)

                    Come on Chili...PLEASE give me a BREAK...
Obviously, I have made a HUGE "3 BITE, 7 week POST-OP MISTAKE"...

PLEASE FORGIVE ME...PLEASE....PLEASE...PLEASE...            
         I AM BEGGING FOR FORGIVENESS....
            UGGGGGHHHH I am in OH HELL......
I feel so misunderstood and hated by some of my 'OH Club'...
                                        YUCK!!!

oh no you are not misunderstood and far from hated.  IF we hated you we would ignore you.

we want you to be a success so we express our concern.

Come on now...

Yea, what Nessa said...You need to make the right choices for you. 

Dearest Nessa,
Thank you so much for 'softening'...

I am a big baby when it comes to people being upset with me...
I am the Webster's dictionary definition of a 'pleaser', so, when I think someone is upset with me I flee...

I now realize how dangerous it is for me to be experimenting so early on...

You see, I have only had a weight issue since I began having back problems 5 years ago.
As of Nov. 11, I now know that I have Cushings Syndrome (an obesity-related disease).
So, in my head, I have never thought that my eating habits caused my obesity...
But, now, I am realizing that I may have a problem with moderation and/or self-control...
I will be discussing this cotton candy issue with my couselor, my Dr, my Nut, my support group, and any one else who will offer advice...

Again, I really appreciate your concern and your wishes for my success...
Thank you so much!!!
And
MAY God Bless your journey too,
Lisa

Lisa,

I was a SKINNY kid.   I did not have a weight issue until AFTER my children were born.   I get that.

I also get the avoiding confrontation and wanting to be a pleaser issue. 

I personally love a good battle but my darling husband hates confrontation of any sort.... so I respect that.

I just saw cotton candy at 7 weeks out and I physically cringed.....

I am very very glad that you will talk to the counselor.  I think that is a great idea.

I'm so concerned myself about transfer addictions....  I have started in the gym and already I find myself wanting to stay longer and longer at the gym or go more days than planned...  or I find myself buying things that I don't need but I want... and can JUSTIFY.....

sometimes we are our own worst enemies.

with only the best intentions,

Nessa

I'm still pre op and have almost completely cut out sugar from my diet! These days there are SO many sugar free, fat free choices and they aren't bad! 

I am so pleased to read this message. See, that's what folks have been trying to get through to you here, in many different ways. You need to really get a grip on what you're eating, through whatever means are appropriate, so that you learn to eat for the nutritional value of your foods, knowledgably and mindfully consuming what you choose to consume.

Yes, what you eat contributes to what you weigh. It seems so obvious, but it's so easy to be in denial about it, especially when the types of medical issues are involved that exacerbate obesity.
Good for you for getting the message. You can make this work.

Hmmm. Protein cotton candy. GAG. lol

look, the best advice someone gave me was to avoid sugar as long as possible. once you know you can eat it. you have to use WILLPOWER. which personally, I suck at.

I made it a year before I tried it. Wish I'd gone longer.

Just because you didn't dump now doesn't mean you won't dump later but trust me, experimenting at 7 weeks most often leads to not too happy results. Those of us who have been around have seen it. Your doctor has seen it.

This is why you need to call your doctor and get some help. They've heard it all. Your insurance company just paid thousands of dollars for you to cut up your guts to lose weight and get healthy. Don't you want to do everything possible to make it work?

You are going about this all wrong. Mistakes happen. but you need to get your head on straight and start focusing!

ugh, you are frustrating me

Now I am just frustrated because you are thanking people who said what you wanted to hear. so you didn't want the honest opinion of people. You wanted people to tell you it was OK to eat sugar 7 weeks out.

Please don't ask a question if you truly do not want an answer.

I don't know what the hell kind of response you thought you'd get with a post like that. But from me, you got the truth.

Sorry you only wanted to hear rainbow stories about consuming sugar. But the fact is, eating cotton candy and crap is what got your ass in the position to be eligible for WLS. We were all there. So forgive me when I think it's ridiculous that you couldn't make it 2 months with trying sugar. Even when you admitted you were scared of it, and knew it was the enemy.