WLS Pole Question Answer if you feel Comfortable Please....

for the record, i forgot to mention that my husband was a miserable alcoholic, but i'm sure i would've stayed with him anyway, if not for the surgery.

Evelyn

The major life changes we go through do put a stress on alot of relationships, but it just brings out the problems that were already there.  I do find that my husband is a little more insecure because I am more independent.  But he loves the way I look, and he doesn't get jelous of all the attention I get now, and some men do.  Sometimes entertainment choices get difficult because I now can do more active things than he can.  And there is sometimes a little stress over the fact that I don't cook much any more, and what I do cook is healthy and in small portions.  But he just cooks what he wants sometimes, and it's cheaper to eat out than before since I usually share whatever he orders.  We find things we can do together, and then other things we do apart.  If your partner is possessive or jelous, that sometimes causes a problem.  I'm lucky, and my husband is pretty supporve about me doing my own thing.  I just have to remind him sometimes that I do still need him.

Thanks Amy for sharing and your so right it cane be very stressful glad your hubby is supportive so many arent. 

I can almost guarantee I'd be separated if we both hadn't changed our situations - we're both post ops. 

I couldn't handle his behaviors - and they rubbed off on me horribly - I gained all of my excess weight the moment we moved in together.

Thanks for sharing and glad things have changed for you and working. Keep up the good work..

I met my bf when I was MO, I am now at my ideal weight and we are still together.  Weight never was an issue in our relationship.

Hugs Heidi

Heidi thats awesome that he has been supportive like I said earlier so many arent they cant deal with the changes. Good luck..