Lost my 21 year old brother need prayers.

Thank you so much Mary,  My mother is my rock, I have to be hers now.  She did raise 4 wonderful children and yes I am including myself in that she made me what I am.  I am just so worried about her.  The first 2 days I was like why Jesse why not me I am the one that has been so sick,  I know why its not my time and it was his it just hurts us that are left here to grieve. 

As you know all too well, the grief process takes a long time until you feel like you can cope again.  I understand your genuine concern for mom, and just ask that you attend to your needs as well.  If you are not emotionally secure, it is very hard to help her.  You know, I was thinking, its okay to cry, they aren't tears of loss as much as love.  You know where your wonderful brother is, in that sense, he's not lost.  But we will always love those that have gone before.  It's okay to cry tears of love.  Help mom to grieve, allow her the comfort of tears.  I'm going to stick with you, and keep you close to my heart.

Not many words can really comphort you in times like this.  But the Love and help that the Lord can give you dan lift you up out of this pit.  All my thoughts and prayers to you and your Mother.  Hugs Debi

Thank you Debi

I will keep your family in my prayers.

Thank you so much.

Renee', having lost my youngest sister just 5 months ago, I know some of your feelings.
My heartfelt condolnces to your family. 
You will never get over it, but you will get through this.
Try to remember all the wonderful fun times and silly, goofy, "boy" memories about Jesse.  Those sweet thoughts will pull you through the rough spots ahead.

Thank you so much it seems to be getting harder everyday right now but I have been told it will do that for about 3 to 6 months.  The only comfort I have right now it knowing he is with Dad right now.  Renee

The first month you will be on "remote control," doing things without really thinking about them.
Let people do things for you.  You have to, to survive.
My sister, Bonnie, died the Sunday before Thanksgiving.  So the entire holiday season was a blur.... I honestly don't remember any shopping, or cooking.  We did things because, "they had to be done."  Once a month had passed, then it began to hit.  After about 2 months, it became easier.  Now, it's still painful, but life is for the living, and I am living it.  My other sister, parents and I can talk about her without crumbling.... You and your family will get there too.
The first year is hardest with all the holidays and his birthday. 
Do not be reluctant to seek counseling.  Compassionate Friends is a great organization for helping families deal with the loss of a child---even an adult child.
www.compassionatefriends.org/

(((Renee))) I saw that on the news, but sure did not know it was your brother. I am so sorry and just don't understand why your family has been put through so much.  I feel so bad for you and your sweet mom.  You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.