WHY WHY WHY Cant people just SHUT UP!!!

I feel for you.  I also had negative feedback from everyone and I mean everyone, and to make matters worse I work in a hospital.   My family just about disowned me because my brother is in remission (Thank the Lord Almighty) from cancer and just had a bone marrow transplant a year ago.  My family felt that we had gone through enough and they were not prepared to have to go through another "medical nightmare".
Well I didn't care what anyone had to say and decided for once in my life I was going to be selfish.  As soon as my brother was healthy and in a "safe"  place medically I started my process to have the RNY.  I had wanted to have the surgery for quite some time but because I was very scared I kept putting it off.  I found the courage to have the surgery after seeing what my brother went through.  I just knew in my heart that the surgery would be nothing compared to what he went through. 
I had surgery on 2/5/09 and thank God I had no complications, no pain, and although I have hit a plateau ( I hear it's common this far out) I have lost 36lbs!!  Now everyone is very proud of my accomplishments and ask all the time for a weight loss status!!  
I hope that you find it in yourself to grab hold of the courage you need to make this decision for yourself!!  If you need to talk I am here for you!
Rosamari

When you make a decision on whether or not you will reschedule your surgery make it for you and no one else. This is all about you seriously you are doing this for all of the right reasons you and your health which should be above what everyone else thinks. Like you said in another post these people will never walk a day in your shoes and if they tried I bet they still will not get it so forget them. It's not good for you and living with the comorbidities you have is any healthier? You won't die from any of those? Please you can walk across the street to get your mail and get hit by a car and die from that. People are so friggin ignorant!

So I say don't live that way anymore and do what is best for you and your health!

Please don't let ignorant (uninformed) people scare you.  There information is irrelevant.  I would suggest not telling anyone new.  To the others, when they start up, say that you won't listen to anything negative about weight loss surgery.  Repeat as needed.  Good luck, Loris

I am sorry you are dealing with negative people. On Sept. 10 my daughter and I had WLS, the day before I was on 80 units of lantus at night, sliding scale of Novolog three times a day and oral meds for diabetes everyday. I took three different blood pressure meds daily, and my thyroid me. At my 6mth check my labs were great and I haven't had insulin since the night before surgery and I only take one blood pressure med. So for me it was worth the surgery. I started at 280 three months before surgery an the day of surgery I was 251. Today I am at 170 only 30 lbs from goal. If you want to improve your quality of life ignore those who just bump their gums.

HELLO! I JUST WENT TO THE SEMINAR ON MARCH 25. MY FAMILY IS SAYING THE SAME THINGS. I NEED TO THINK ABOUT MY 4 KIDS, BUT I FEEL THAT IF I DON'T DO THIS THEN I WON'T BE HERE FOR THEM ANYWAY. I HAVE THOUGHT THIS OVER AND PRAYED ABOUT IT FOR THE LAST 2-3 YEARS AND MT MIND IS MADE UP. YOU NEED TO DO WHAT IS GOING TO MAKE YOU HAPPY AND CONTENT. TEXT BACK! I WOULD LOVE TO CHAT WITH YOU!

You need to do what is right for you not anyone else. I am like you. My quality of life right now sucks. I use to be so active and now I am on two blood pressure medicines. I can't do to much with my kids anymore. Thank God they are older and are active with their friends. I have not told my parents that I am having the surgery just because I don't want to hear them talk about how its a big mistake. Well I, like you want to live a long life and see my grandchildren and do a lot with my wife when we retire and most of all, I am doing it for me. I want to have fun again. You stick to your guns and have the surgery. You know what you need not them.

The first time the surgery was brought up to me by a Dr, was about 7 1/2 years ago---funny thing is back then she told me I would have to gain 20 to 25 lbs to make sure I qualified---LOL---I know crazy right????  anyway I told my husband what the Dr had suggested---he said "H*LL No you are not having that, it is dangerous"---then when the subject was broached 3 years ago he said---"just do whatever you want to do and stop talking about it"---In his defense I was acting like a nut case at the time---LOL---this time however he has been very supportive and is looking forward to it happening.  He was scared---but the more research he did and the more comfortable he go with the idea of it, the more supportive he was able to be---SOmetimes people just need to get used to an idea before they can accept it---also if you don't know much about the surgery then it is scary---I am scared even now and I have researched like nobodies business!  But there does also come a time when you have to say enough is enough---if you can not be supportive then I can not be around you right now---not forever---but for right now!  This is your life don't let others scare you into not doing what is best for you in every way!

My suggestion to everyone with overly negative family members, significant others or friends/others whose opinions you may care about is to invite them to an informational seminar put on by your surgeon.

Or, if it's a close family member or partner -- someone *****ally matters -- ask them to come to a pre-op consultation and/or doctor's appointments with your surgeon.

Doing these things will give those in attendance more accurate and realistic information, and a chance to ask questions, ease fears, lay to rest any rumors or speculation they make have heard, and bring the whole process home to them a little bit, making it more real, instead of based only on whatever they've heard, or read, or thought.

It also allows them to put a name and a face to the surgery, and the person who will be doing the operation on their loved one or friend, and may help establish a trust that, naturally, probably would not otherwise be there.

If your family member/friend still has major objections or a refusal to deal in a positive manner with you after that, well, then you can go on from there.

But my guess is, doing either or both of these things would ease many of the problems/issues that others may have wtih WLS.

I do not understand this mentality of pushing straight diet as the cure all for people who are obese, morbidly obese or super morbidly obese. It is a disease and diets have about a 20% chance of succeeding. Name me one other situation where someone in the medical field would keep pushing a plan that is only successful long term 20% of the time. That is an 80% FAILURE rate. "Oh we have this cancer treatment you should try. It got a 20% success rate and we think it's perfect for you." Bull****! Do what you have to to make yourself healthy!!!!!