WHY WHY WHY Cant people just SHUT UP!!!

WHY WHY WHY I swear I'm stomping my feet and having a fit  I understand that people care about my well being, but everyone I mean EVERYONE that I talk to about WLS is negative. I hear its not good for you, people die from that, if god meant you to have a small stomach you would!! I just want to have my surgery and LIVE!! I want to be free of high blood pressure, diabetes, depression, no social life! I mean my goodness I'm not living now!! This is a BIG reason I chickened out on March 6th. Everyone in my life scared the snot outta me...... I cant live this way anymore! 

You don't have to! You tell all those negative people two things. " I am smart enough to make my own decisions for MY life and I don't need your approval or permission." They love you enough to support you in whatever you do, or they don't. They only person you can change is you! Go for it!!

Many times people don't want you to change or better yourself because they will be left to face their own inadequacies.  I'm sorry you're also having to deal with this - thankfully I haven't heard any negatives lately, my mom finally came on board with me doing a WLS when she ran across 2 friends who had surgery.  They specifically told her not to discourage me from trying to get healthy.

Remember the agenda people have when they speak to you like that, yes they care about you .. so why WOULDN"T they want you to get healthy?  People will try to sabatage you in the guise of caring and not realize what they're doing.

Check this book out .. it's a new release and I bought it and it helped a lot.  It's written by a Bariatric Nurse who had WLS and her doctor.  They talk about these things in this book too... not just the journey.

http://www.amazon.com/Lost-Found-Guide-LAP-BAND-Journey/dp/B001UP9LB8/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1238547806&sr=1-3

Even if you're not getting the Lap Band, it will help you deal with a lot of issues invoving WLS.  I wish you the best and stay your course to a healthier you!


~Demi

Hey, I understand.  My sister was negative from day 1.  Still is, even after the surgery!  The point is that they don't live your life.  You are the one that has to make the decision and you are the one that will have to live with it, whether you decide to have the surgery or not.  I for one feel sooo much better after.  Is it work? Yes, you still have to eat right and exercise.  But, for a change, you actually feel like exercising.  Do what is best for you, and tell everyone else to be quiet about it.

Most everyone knows a friend of a friend of a friend who died, had surgery and gained back all the weight, lost so much weight they nearly died, on and on and on.  It's all hearsay.  Until they do their own research, do lots of reading, and check out all the surgeries, they don't have the right to give you advice.  You figure out what is best for you and go for it.  You won't get any arguments here!

Linda

These are called toxic relationships.....though they are worried about you as noone likes to hear that someone close to them is going to have surgery....it is scary.  Talk to them about how you feel and tell them they can eiether support you or not....but if they choose not to support you then they can do it silently.  It is for YOU...your the only one who can make the final descision to be healthy or not....just like they can choose to support you or not.  Good luck.

I found a lot more negativity about the surgery when people knew I was going to get it done.  Now that I'm post op, people tend to be MUCH more positive about the whole thing.  I seldom get the "I know someone who knows someone that died" stories now.  I also find they are more curious about the whole thing and the process because they see how I seem to be living a "normal" life and not suffering.

April

Everyone that made it their daily ritual to try and talk me out of it ended up going straight to voice mail when they called. I got sick of hearing how I was going to die and having that guy from the biggest loser thrown in my face. I told them that I had one foot in the grave anyway so why not try to remove it by improving my health. I told them if I died atleast I would be asleep and not know it so I did not have to hear more whining from them. That one shut them up fast!

Girl, alls I am saying is there is too much negativity in this world, and it sux that fat ppl bear the brunt of it, everytime u turn the news on, its obesity this obesity that, well, when ppl try to better themselves, and the rest of the united states, why is everyone against it?

My sister is like a size 1 at Victoria Secret and this ***** says I am taking the easy way out, making excuses for myself, I need to eat oatmeal, its not natural, my neighbor lost 50 pds dieting, she was like see Kari can do it why cant you?? well, if I had a decent starting point, like one I could even walk up stairs and breathe at the same time, then maybe I could, but I have 200 pds to loose, and I cant do it on my own, I have tried for 7 years!

So, My girlfriend that had the surgery 5 yrs ago said just put on a happy face and dont show her the pain and struggling that you may face, and she will eat her words, even if she comes around, or if she doesnt I am not doing it for her, i want to live my life, at least part of my 20's like I am happy and go on roller coasters and swim with my kids, and go out and flirt a little bit!! I want more and what I have now makes me miserable, so I am doing it for ME!!! no one tells the girl who has indents and wants size DD's to not do the surgery!! 

UUGGH! sorry i went off and in all directions too, but the same reaon you are mad is what makes me wanna explode like a ticking time bomb! I just wish people could understand, but those who cant- hey you cant change them!!!

sorry!! I wish you luck, and think you should reconsider !

Good Luck!!

Jeannie

I AM SO SORRY PEOPLE HAVE BEEN NEGATIVE. I THINK SOME PEOPLE DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE THE WLS DECISION. I ALSO HAD A FRIEND SAY "YOU KNOW I'M NOT FRIENDS WITH SKINNY*****ES". SHE HONESTLY HAS NOT HAD MUCH TO DO WITH ME SINCE I NOW WEIGH LESS THAN HER. I THINK SHE IS JEALOUS AND SOME OF YOUR FRIENDS PROBABLY ARE TOO. OH, AND THAT IS WHERE MY SCREEN NAME CAME FROM, THAT COMMENT. DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU. I AM HAPPY WITH MY DECISION AND I TELL EVERYONE. THANKFULLY NO ONE HAS BEEN NEGATIVE TO MY FACE......

SKINNY*****