How did you meet your mate?

You will be happy to know I found my spouse on line.  We have been together for almost 5 years and just got married this winter.  He is truly the sweetest. 

I wish you the best of luck!

Maxine

I met my husband on yahoo personals and we were married 2 months later. 2 kids and 6 years later we are very happy. I think the main reason I met him online was similar to yours. I didn't know how to meet people on my own, forgot how to date, I was self conscious about my weight (though I was 40lbs lighter then) and I was a single mom so I didn't get out much. I'll say I did go out with a few odd ones before meeting the right one, but that can happen anywhere. My only advice is that when I was trying to date online I had better luck going into a yahoo chat room for my area then with personals. I don't know whats up with the guys on personals, but unless they contacted me first I had no luck trying to contact them. Also to ease some of the tension take your time talking on line or on the phone to get to know each other a bit better. It really does help break down the nerves. Just don't spend too much time before meeting face to face or you may find that you have no chemistry in person and its even more disappointing because you already started to like him. I'm not saying looks are all that important, but you do need to have a connection. Good Luck. You look great! Sarah http://rileycentral.net/partyof5

I met him at work, we were friends, then something changed. Oh yeah, he spilled the beans... lol... but I already knew...

My best advice, do what you love, be open, be yourself... the love you're looking for will find you...

Ahh....My love (were getting married in June) and I met - online! He had been talking to a girl on Yahoo personals, after a nasty divorce he decided he wanted to start looking again. He sent her an IM one evening, her email addy was very close to mine and guess what - he got MEEE! I chatted with him off and on until we became friends I was then living in Va he in GA. So on his 3 days off from work he was like let me take you to dinner...so I jokingly agreed 8 hrs later we were sitting at the local mexican place eating. I knew from the moment I met him I was going to marry him... Sigh it truely was fate that brought us together!

Well, it hasn't happened for me.  I tried both match.com and eharmony.  Match.com had the biggest bunch of losers in my area.  I did try to communicate with some of them on the off chance that I was judging too harshly from reading their profiles.  Nope - they were weird.  Eharmony?  You start out by asking all these weird questions?  Nothing I would want to know the answers to -- I stayed for a couple of weeks, then cancelled my membership.  There were a couple of interesting looking people there, but by and large I think men judge so quickly on looks -- and they are looking for Barbie who also happens to be very wealthy.  Ain't gonna happen. Sarah - I agree with Becky - any man who takes two minutes to know you would love you.  You have an amazing sense of humor, you're beautiful, intelligent, and talented.  I wish I could tell you the best way to meet Mr. Right.  My one foray into on-line dating ended in disaster.  For me, it was a major disappointment.  Just be careful out there. Linda

Today is our 27th anniversary! I met him when I was set up on a blind date with a friend of his. The blind date was a disaster, but my now hubby evidently liked me because he pursued me after that and a year later we were married! 3-27-1981  :)

I too met hubby online. neither one of us was looking....he had already resigned himself to bachelorhood forever because he was so old (32 LOL) I was 24 and had been hurt enough. I was a single Mom and still living with my parents. We were in a chat program called VP or Virtual Places.....he happened to stumble into my "room" one night and we started chatting. We picked on each other (Brat......Snob...etc etc) We ended up seeing each other almost every night...online.....that was in Dec of '96.......he was alays very respectful. He ended up coming down to Tx to meet me in April of '97....then brought me up to see him in June....then it was back and forth for one of us every other month. He ended up proposing to me New Years Eve '97/'98.....only after asking my 5 yr old daughter if it would be ok with her if he were to marry me LOL  We were married in Aug of '98. So this yr will be 10 yrs for us.......we have 3 boys together and of course my now 15 yr old daughter who he treats no differently than the others. I think the fact that we met online was a really good thing....it can be scary and you never know for sure if someone is BS'ing you.....I just knew I was open and honest and expected the same. I wish you the best of luck in finding a good guy.....from what I can tell you certainly deserve a good one!

 

Suz

Yeah, I got nothing. Hoping in a year from now, someone can ask this same question and I'll be able to answer "We worked together and then, bam! one day, something just changed." (I got a crush on a wonderful man at work) BUT...I did want to thank you for asking the question--I LOVED reading the responses! jayme

Sarah, I agree with everyone here... you are beautiful inside and out. If a man gives you two minutes of his attention, he'll be sure to fall in love with you. I too met my husband online. I won't go into some fairytale romance because it wasn't as it appeared and I had to fight to keep him. Relationships are harder than ever to make work and it can often be discouraging. However, online romances can/do work. Keep at it and don't give up. Be precise in what you are looking for and totally honest. Eventually, you will find the man who is meant for you.. or he will find you. My husband found me. I didn't even want to date. I had enough of internet men to last a lifetime and was tired of being used and hurt because I wasn't "their type".  Now, I am educated, self sufficient and have so much more to offer a good man. If I were to give any advice, it would be what you already know. "Would you date you?" If you are truly happy with what/who you are and have to offer a relationship, then it's time to put forth the effort to find a good man to share you life with. Hugs and God Bless. ... O'yeah.. God has a plan for you... just ask him to include a good man in it and I'm sure He'll listen! Jen

I picked up my husband when I was 18 & he was 22 on a trip to Wal-Mart.  {Well, you can get anything there right?}  Anyway, I was in the electronics section chattin with a bunch of my friends, then one of my girlfriends sees Jessie walkin down the main drag.  She used to work with him.  She slipped away from us to go talk to him & told him he should give me a call.  Well I get to lookin for Gina, then I see her talkin to this great lookin dark haired, hazel eyed guy.  {still gives me the vapors lol}  Well that was short lived...Jess decided he'd be "macho" and snap his fingers &  point toward himself as if to tell me, "Get over here, woman!"  Well, me being the genteel southern belle, I flip him the bird & go on about my business.  Later that night, he called me anyway cause he thought I was feisty. lol  Well, I find out he's not a jerk after all and we talk for over 2 hours.  I find out he's on a payphone outside in the rain the whole time.  Said he had to call before he lost the nerve.  We've been together ever since...almost 15 years.  He completes me. I guess I said all that to say this...When it's time, it'll happen, maybe not as soon as we would like, but when you least expect it.  I had already resigned myself to believe I didn't want anyone to answer to or a drunk or dope head to fight with.  God sent the perfect man for me.  I honestly believe he is the reason I was born & he was born for me.  We met totally out of "coincidence" but we DID meet.  I feel it was all in God's greater plan for me.  It'll happen for you too, sweetie.  You're too beautiful inside & out for some great guy not to take notice.  God Bless!!