I pledge never to become like this...
Starting weight: 262 Current weight: 152.2 Goal weight: under 155 - I keep going over - UGH!!!
weeks maintaining goal: 1
302/153/145 Down 149 pounds
Lap RNY: 9/28/06
How Sad, I’ve not met those folks…. At the Lexington Convention, there were “Wall to Wall” Post-ops who had been @Goal for quite some time, and THEY were the ones who seemed most supportive and concerned about those just starting out. Same holds true for my local support groups- (all of the Baptist Memorial HealthCare Organizations) Is it possibly a perception “thing?” -------------------------------------------------------- There’s a story of an old man at the gates of a city. A traveler arrives and asks- "I’m just moving here to begin a new job. How are the people in this town?" The old man asks- "How were the people where you’re from?" "Oh," says the traveler, "They were the greatest. Caring, generous, friendly to everyone." The old man says- "Fortunately, you’ll find them to be the same here." The traveler enters the city and soon another traveler arrives and asks the same question. The old man asks- "How were the people where you’re from?" "Oh," says this second traveler, "They were the worst. Selfish, spiteful, petty and bickering constantly." The old man says- "Unfortunately, you’ll find them to be the same here." The old man was right both times. Changing how one Looks at things, Changes the things one looks at…….. (or some grammatically correct version of that thought. :-) Best Wishes- Dx
Capricious; Impulsive, Semi-Predictable
Dex, I do think perception does play a part. Being a Buddhist has made me see things very differently than most people. I see the Glass has "Half-Full" rather than Half-Empty. Some see it as Bone-dry. I know that when I was over 300 pounds, I often perceived people differently because I was always thinking about what they were thinking about me as a Fat Person. Was I disgusting to them? Maybe? I had a very low self-esteem. I have to say, that it wasn't the weight-loss that made me hold my head higher, it was my new found perception (After the death of my husband) that I really shouldn't care what other people think about me. I'm a person who always looks for the good in people. Sometimes you have to pick off a lot of layers to find the good, but it exists somewhere. If someone insults me, I tell them to have a "Nice a Day!" and go on my merry way. It doesn't mean anything to me, of course I've also been told that I'm "Too Nice". Maybe I am. But I don't think it's a bad trait to have.
BTW, I re-read you're men's group session handout to give to my cousin. I think it will be really helpful for him. He's 25, weighs 400. I've been helping him prepare for surgery when I remembered your handout! Being a guy have WLS is a different experience!
328 highest/301 Day Of Surgery/155 goal/137lbs
and below goal and maintaining for 2 years!!!!
BA/BL, Fleur-di-lys TT 11/2006
Buttock/Outer Thigh Lift 2/2007
Medial Thigh Lift/Breast Implant Revision 10/01/2007
Hey Gorgeous! You know when life has kicked you in the Azz like it has to me for the past couple of years, you can either wallow in self-pity or pull yourself up by you're bootstraps and become a stronger and better person. I chose the latter.
I believe that coddling and enabling people is the worst you can do. I used to go to AlAnon meetings when I was younger. It was the one thing we discussed quite frequently. I rather tell people the plain truth rather than make them feel it's ok. Because it's not. But I do value other people's opinions whether I agree with them or not. It's what makes this world more interesting! I rather have many opinions, than "Stepford Wives" running around.
328 highest/301 Day Of Surgery/155 goal/137lbs
and below goal and maintaining for 2 years!!!!
BA/BL, Fleur-di-lys TT 11/2006
Buttock/Outer Thigh Lift 2/2007
Medial Thigh Lift/Breast Implant Revision 10/01/2007