Lurkers Unite!

I agree, and appreciate all of the help I have received from everyone on this site.  I am 5 weeks out from my own surgery and could have never made it this far without all of you!  So many questions have been answered, fears allayed, and laughs have been shared.  Good luck to all of you, and thank you, again.

I ditto this too!!!!

Please forgive me for such a long post!  I guess I finally have something to say.  Maybe I'm making up for lost time! I, too, am usually a lurker.  I try, I really try, to find something to say to be helpful.  But, 9 times out of 10, someone has already said exactly what I would have said, but I do respond if I know what to say.  I am not an outgoing person.  I wish I was...but for the life of me, I cannot think of anything to say sometimes.  This does make me feel uncomfortable, but...heneltly, I don't appreciate being made to feel guilty for this character trait I already feel very self-conscious about.  I am me, I should not have to apologize for that.  Like I said, I wish I was more naturally outgoing and I've had a tendency to let people walk all over me, and I won't do that anymore.  I will be as helpful as I can possibly be, and please don't insult something you may not understand.   I will tell you, this site and these people who put in all this incredible effort is more invaluable than they even know.  I feel deep appreciation from the bottom of my heart and the bottom of my being.  This site has made my journey 100 times better, and for that I am tryly grateful!  I am also grateful for the ability to lurk when that's all I have it in me to do most of the time.  I feel like the example of others is what can change me, over time.  In time, I think I will be able to open up more, naturally.  It is getting more comfortable for me, I can feel the love here, and I can sense the acceptance, and the willingness of people to help, with no conditions attached.  There is great support here, and without that, I would not be where I am today.  Someday I would like to give that back, according to my own abilities.  There are people on here that post a lot and I do want to say to you, "THANK YOU!"  Your information and your experience has helped so many people, even if it's gone unsaid.   Life is a journey and roles change.  As our life changes on our own journeys, we will take on different roles, without even realizing it's happening.  Things will change, and people will start responding more....when, and if, they feel comfortable, or have time, or whatever the reason.  Nogody should judge how and who this happens, we should just support.  And if you're reading posts that nobody has responded to and you feel like responding, you should!  But, please, do so without judging the hundreds who haven't....that kind of takes away from the positive support that is so helpful here.  I bet that many people, like me, wonder how we can possibly have anything else to add to the great advice we've alrady read over and over.....there is so much widwon and knowledg here and I feel so humble when I realize how much experience there is to be shared here, and I feel so thankful there are so many people willing to share.   Again, sorry, this is so long.  Thanks for listening.   Erika

Great post I will try and be a lurker no more. Doug.

Dail up here to,.lol..thats why i'm a iguess what u call a lurker..lol..

I admit that I am generally a 'Lurker' though I do post when I have something to add.  My time online is limited so I read what pertains to my interest. Generally not a 'chitty chat' kinda person.  I also have those I   communicate with via pm and email.  Those who judge "Support" by looking at the # of views-vs-responses to a message are not thinking outside of the box  :0)   By the way I am very thankful this site is offered up for our use and those that work behind the scenes are much appreciated Thanks!!!!

My name is Jessica and I'm a lurker, although I do post when i have something to add.  I had my surgery on Sept 21st and have learned so much from you all just by lurking.  I am so thankful for this site and all the knowledgeable  and caring people here. 

I don't post if I feel I don't have any useful information i.e.  I didn't have the lap band so I don't have any information that would be useful.