Self Sabatoge??

Does anyone else do this? I do and have finally figured out that i do it and admit that i do it, but how to stop it isnt beyond me. Its the I know what im doing wrong, stopping it is something i cant seem to grasp. Ive gained 40lbs since my lowest weight and im depressed and just miserable over it. Ive had a rough year and i could blame it on that and all the emotions i went thru this year BUT i started gaining before this year, although most of the regain happened this year. I need to admit that i have a problem and i know everyone says they see a therapist or whatever but i dont know that i can do that. I cry at the drop of a hat and what i do i say when i go see them? i cant quit eating things i know i shouldnt be?
It was a topic of discussion with me and a coworker and i just thought i'd put it out here for your response.

Thanks.
 

If you are crying at the drop of a hat, then you need to talk to your primary care physician.  Many people overeat to control depression.  Once food is taken away, then they have to deal with the depression.  There are actually at least two diffierent kinds of depression.  The one most people think about is the one that is situational.  The person is facing some kind of life situation and their reaction to it leads to depression.  Then there is the second type and it has no real situational cause associated with it.  The second kind is a chemical imbalance in the brain and can be inherited.  Both types require the same kind of treatment, medication.  The kind of medicaiton that your doctor prescribes depends on which one you respond to best.  It takes a minimum of 6 weeks to get the meds straightened out, but some people experience an instant relief from the depression...but that is not typical.

So the first thing is to get something to help with the depression.  Next, if you know that there is a situation that needs to be dealt with, then you might seek a counselor to help you with problem solving.  Remember however, that a counselor is not there to solve the problem, only to help you figure out how to do so and if you really want to do what has to be done.  No one but you can decide what you want to do or how you want to handle...or not handle....a situation.

A very important thing to remember is that you cannot be depressed and be active.  if you make yourself exercise, be with other people, and force yourself to work, then you will cease to be depressed.  However, this takes a great deal of effort and it is exhausting.  It is much easier with medication, but you still need to be physically active for the endorphines to do their job....they are what make you feel better.

Although this is not offiicial advice or professional advice, because it is too general, I really do know what I am talking about.  I am a licensed professional counselor; although I am only functioning here as a member of this board with commonsense advice.

Hi Hillary,

I've been there, done that and have the tee shirt. 

I was doing the same thing to myself.  I knew what I was doing when I  wasdoing it.  It was a vicious cycle...depressed because I had gained and I had gained because I was depressed.  I was sabatoging myself.  I was doing all the overeating too, knew I was, even why I was, but could not stop.

When I started counseling, I did just tell them how it was.  I was first given anti-depressants by my Internist.   I've been on anti-depressants for many years...at least 15.  The first counselor I went to was a Psychologist and when i said the same thing about already knowing the who, what and why he said that know and process it are two different things.  That's what a therapist does...helps you to process so you can move forward. 

If you have an Alabama Psychiatric Services in your area and have BC/BS of Alabama group insurance...you may be able to see one of their therapist and even a psychiatrist for depression medication.  I hope this helps Hillary!  I fell asleep earlier and posted only part of this.  I edited to finish. :o)  Gonna go back to sleep now.  Love ya!!