Help me help hubby

I was wondering if any of you guys could email my husband about your success with WLS. He is at [email protected] I have been determined to have it by the time I am 40 and have been trying for 6 years. Well, I am finally on my way with surgeon consultation scheduled. My husband is on two types of insulin, numerous meds, and takes Aleve every day for pain. He is only 47, but is disable and doesn't do anything he enjoys anymore. Hunting, fishing, etc. used to be all he wanted, but now, he barely can get necessary things done around the house without a daily nap. So, I really would like him to help himself so we both can get healthy together. Anyone, out there been through this or willing to help me out? He won't actually go to this site, but I tell him stuff that is being talked about all of the time. My 14 year old walks by the computer and asks, "Mom, are you on the fat people messageboard again?" My whole family is supportive of me, but I would like my husband to show more of interest for himself too. Thanks in advance.

I cant believe no one has replied to this yet. Have you gotten any emails? I cant say much about the actual surgery 'cause Im still waiting for approval for my surgery but most people I have talked to that have had the surgery have no regrets. Just read the other posts. They speak for themselves. I have the same problem with my husband. Were both a couple who love food. ( Or as we say.. a couple of fatties - in a nice way ) He came with me to the seminar and was sorta interested but when he saw the amount of 'work" involved, he declined. He is obviously not ready. I say, if youre not ready.. no amount of pushing will make you ready. your husband sounds like hes just not ready. I understand your dilemma with wanting your husband healthy and fit but you have to take care you your needs now. Maybe when he sees how well you do, he will consider taking the steps he needs to do something. Its like any other habit.. you have to be ready to change for it to take or its a waste of time. As for your son.. I hope he remains healthy for the rest of his live. At 14, he doesnt realize the pain we "Fat People" have gone thru. Hes too young to know that he too could one day be on the "fat People Message board". And, hes a boy. My 17 yr old son doesnt say anything about me wanting this surgery. Hes not interested in if his mom is fat or not. Im just mom - gimme the keys, please. Now, my girls - 13 & 19 - .. they are interested. Especially my 13 yr old, who could easily follow in her mothers shoes. If youre ready to do this.. do it for you. Take care of you. Your husband will let you know when hes ready when hes ready. JT

Thank you. No, you are the first to reply. I am determined this will happen for me. As always, I am the optimist in the family. Now my husband is saying he is tired of hearing about it and he will be glad once I've had this F&%$ING surgery! I told him how this hurt me, and his reply was, "Do you have to talk about it all of the time?" "It's taken over our lives!" My reply to him was, "Well, it is gonna change my life and I want to learn all I can now to make it happen!" He is supportive to a cause, but he isn't one to follow through on alot of things. My daughter is adopted, but she too has my figure. She wants to get skinny too. She is just 7 and weighs 100 lbs. I told her that she can exercise with Mommy and that will help her get healthier. Again, thanks alot. I am grateful to you for understanding how I feel. Donna