Uh oh...my nerves are kicking in....

Well my surgery is less than a week away and I have had a lot of people ask me if I was scared. I always replied no. Now I am not so sure. Lately I have been starting to get a lot of "what if" thoughts going through my head. And they are not the positive what ifs, but rather negative ones. I tell myself I am doing this for me and for my family. I want to be able to enjoy my 2 yr old daughter and run and play with her without getting tired. But then I think "what if " something happens and I am not even around to see her play. I know if I can just get past the negative thoughts all will be ok. Is this normal? Just wondering if others got nervous beforehand too. Thanks for listening. Tina

You are normal! I have no regrets for my surgery, even with some complications and not getting to my goal. i am very happy with the changes. Cathy

I agree, this is normal. I was so scared that I sat down and wrote a very long letter to my family "just in case". I have never opened it and as matter of fact it is still in my safe at home. I felt much more at ease once I did that. I told them how much they were loved by me and how important it was for me to have this surgery so that I could enjoy seeing them grow up and so forth. You are doing the right thing and you should try to dwell on the positive side. I am over 2 yrs out now and would do it again in a heartbeat. I am also lucky enough that I will be having plastic surgery to remove all my excess skin in my stomach in November. Once again, I am anxious and scared to have another surgery, but it is only going to help me in the long run in becoming 110% healthy. Good luck to you and try not to let the negative get to you. Vicky

Thanks everyone for the kind words. It actually helps to know that others had fears too and I am not alone. This website has been a Godsend of support. Thanks again. Tina

Hi Tina, I had my surgery earlier this month on October 3rd. I too was a nervous wreck the week or so before surgery. I was totally cool about it for the several months before hand even after the nine million people continually asking me if I was scared and hearing the horror stories of their aunt's cousin sisters brothers uncle who had the surgery and there were complications...blah blah blah. It got kinda tiring after awhile. I don't mean to make it sound like the procedure is a walk in the park and there isn't a risk, but the risk of being morbidly obese is so much greater in my humble opinion. Needless to say, as the days got closer to my date I became more and more nervous and had a few bouts of nausea in the weeks leading up to it. I had even thoughts of backing out of it. I had the surgery Oct. 3rd and was VERY Anxious!! Everything went fine with my surgery and I am doing great as I'm sure you will too. I'll keep you in my prayers for an easy surgery and a speedy recovery! I sure you will do well

Honey it is all to normal. You will be enjoying your daughter all to soon. I love your surgeon...remember I told him I would love to wake up next to him any day even on a hospital bed. He is the best. I can't think of a better place for you to be. If I'm still in the hospital I will come see you. I may even try to get up here. Tina...call me. Do you have my phone number? I'm in the hospital so I can't really email you with it. However, if you go to the Over 50 forum, email Jeannie Granata (click on one of her posts) -- Or go to my surgery support page. ANd she has posted on there. Then...email her. Tell Jeannie you are a friend of mine and that I told her to give you my cell phone number and if she has my home number that too!! Honest...I'm here for you. As much as I can be. LIke I said, I'm still in the hospital but am hoping to be out by Monday. Gala

Ohhh Tina, These are all so 'normal' thoughts right before surgery. Think of all the positive things you'll be able to do after you lose some weight. I am coming up on my 4 year anniversary and am a leader for a support group in Milwaukee. I am very active and really just enjoy life now. Please hang in there, soon you'll be on the other side with all us big losers. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me, I'd love to offer you support! Dawn in Milwaukee 342/150 414-526-7703