Very down need support

Well here i am typing this again.Pc closed it out due to a error report.Found out that my insurance UHC claim they never recieved my forms for gastric from last month.Well now neenah is sending it out again by fax this time.So that is another 30 days to wait.In the meantime my dh is looking for a different job so that means a different insurance again a waiting game.And neenah is 4 months booked up once approved.So i have given up.My brother had it done last year my sister found out i was looking into this and decided she wanted it too.Well she is already approved.So i guess i will be the heavy weight of the family.The laughing stock.Nothing ever goes right for me anymore.Life sucks!!!!Good luck to everyone else who gets to have it done.Maybe i will die of a heartattack at the age of 32.Been at this since jan.7 months of testing and paperwork for nothing really stinks.

HEY THERE: DON'T GIVE UP. IT WILL HAPPEN WHEN IT HAPPENS. YOU ARE WORTH IT. I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR 4 MONTHS AND FINALLY HAVE MY FIRST APPOINTMENT ON MONDAY TO SEE THE DOCTOR. I FIGURED I WAITED THIS LONG BEING FAT, SO, I CAN WAIT TO NOT BE FAT. PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP ON THIS........YOU DESERVE TO DO THIS FOR YOURSELF. TAKE CARE AND KEEP YOUR CHIN UP. DEBBIE

Sharon, My thoughts and prayers are with you as I read your last post. My little words of advice? NEVER NEVER EVER give up! I can relate to how you feel, it took me two years to get to this point, and I am finally on the losing side. Just as dieting, which we can stick to for a while and then, when nothing happens and we re-lapse and gain back more than we started out with, this can be a perilous battle. Don't give up, you're already half way there. Just take a deep breath, say to yourself " I will not let this get me down" and keep on going. A few weeks setback are not going to make the difference, once you're approved, the surgery is over and you're on the other side, it will have all been worth it. There are many of us out there who had to deal with rejection for a multitude of reasons. The lord works in misterious ways, there's a reason why it's taking you this long and HE wouldn't make you go through this if HE didn't know you can make it through! Keep your faith, and don't give up!!! Take care and keep us posted Andrea

Hi Sharon, My name is Laurie. We all know how you feel. In fact, all of us have been waiting an entire lifetime to fit into a world that does not accept fat people. We all have given up befor. Some of us wait longer than others. I just turned 38 in June. Your ahead of me by 6 years already. I feel really blessed that god has given me a good coping mechanism. Faith & a real good sense of humor. This is what I want you to do. Find a good distraction while your in the waiting process. You are completely focused on the wait. BAD! Funnel some of this energy into something you really like. I have a love of music & sing Karaoke regularely. It entertains me , builds my self esteme & I meet a lot of nice people. It's something you don't need a partner or friend for to participate. Most importantly it kills time. I am post op waiting for approval myself. when the paperwork & test ended I freaked because I felt there was more I could do. Then i realized all that was left to do is wait. So, I'm right with you girl. Remember, you are responsible for bringing yourself down just like you are responsible for keeping you spirits high. Sitting around being depressed is going to make you more depressed. Go out & have a good time. If your in the Milwaukee Area, email me & Maybe we can get together. I'll be happy to hear from you. Good luck with the approval. It will all work out with time.

Thanks everyone!Not really down anymore but now upset.My sister has a date next month.Just talked to her because I found out she has me mentioned in her profile after I told her not to say anything to anyone.She told her brother that she has been on here and he is pretty smart and will see my name and then tell my mom.I am really really pissed.She also told me oh i won't say anything to anyone and told her kids about me also.I should have never told her about me looking into this because when I did she all of a sudden was having it done with out much thought.URRRR.Guess now the whole world knows thanks to my sister.

I am 2 years post-op. I never thought it would happen for me either. I waited almost a year, and then I was denied coverage completely, and had to re-finance my house to have the surgery. Then I had complications in the hospital totalling over $60K, not including the $25K I put up front. We had to file bankruptcy, but even through all of the insurance denials, surgery complications and financial peril, I will NEVER REGRET having the surgery. I have lost ALL of the weight and went from a size 22 to a size 4. I have my health and life back. Actually, I feel better than when I was a teenager. Don't let money get in your way. You have to do this for your health, whatever it takes.