Greatest Fear?

Ok.. so we are all at different stages on our journey.  Some of us are just starting out, others waiting for approval, some are waiting for surgery, then we have new post ops and grads. I have noticed every time I reach a new mile stone it will calm an old fear and a new one will arise.  For example when I was waiting on insurance. I was afraid I would be denied, and sure 'nuff I was! So my next fear was failing in the appeal process as well, which I didn't!  Now that fear is gone, but I'm faced with another one. That fear is going into the operating room and the doctor not being able to operate because my liver is too big.  I know some have said this is ridiculous, but my NUT has told me that she has heard of my Doc doing that (or maybe its a scare tactic to stick to the pre op diet? IDK).  I know that once surgery is over I will have another fear.. and I suspect that might be fear of failure..but I cannot say for sure since I am not to that point yet. So, in an effort to get our Wisconsin board moving, considering the stage you are in... what fear are you facing right now??

Good thread Denise! My fear right now is that I'm done loosing weight...and not even 6 months out.  Last month I barely lost at all...and this month I've gained and held.  I'm scared to death that this is it...and I'm not ready for this to be it.  P.S.  My liver was quite enlarged before surgery..thus the liquid diet.  The only difference he said it would make if it hadn't shrunk enough was that it would then be an open surgery as opposed to lap.  I think you're going to be just fine missy!

Thanks chica! I highly doubt you are done losing!!  Just keep doing what you are doing. You might just be at a longer than usual stall or you are just slown way down. The smaller you get the harder it is to lose.... I say keep chuggin away and you will wake up one morning... and the stall will be over!!

At 6 months post op and minus 90 lbs. my greatest fear is that someday I could gain all or some of my weight back. I have seen people that have and  they don't use the tool properly for their lifetime. I don't ever want this to happen to me but 4-5 years post op who knows what could happen. I'm still in the " honeymoon" stage right now. I have to stay focused, work out daily, and watch what I eat and I'm sure I'll/We'll all be o.k but what if I'm one of those that fails long term? That fear is in the back of my mind. Shari

I have that fear too.... I have also met people that hae gained the weight back. BUT I know 3 people that have "maintained" to some degree.  What I mean is.. they went through a great weight loss, the body stabalized.. then they put about 10% of the weight back.. where they maintained then.  10%..I can live with 10%.. just not putting 100% back on!!!!

Your fear may not be unfounded.  A lady posted a while back she went in for the surgery with Dr. Wasco and he stopped the surgery because her liver was too big!! And she had to wait for I think 3 months to have the surgery completed. Me my biggest fear:  is I will be the one in (whatever the odds) the surgery won't work it will all be for naught.

OMG... Cindy... thats crazy... Ok.. maybe its NOT a scare tactic. I will have to talk to him about doing the open if that is the case. It shouldn't.. but you know.. I just don't feel secure. I'm stearing away from the carbs and sugars.. but my portions are larger than Lori recommends.  Argh.. I might jump on the band wagon with some other with the liquid pre op diet.. and when I get the craving for food toss in some cheese... or an egg.  I have to email Lori now because I'm a little tweaked!!

Let me know what you find out. I have surgery on May 12th and would be really upset if DR. Wasco would stop the surgery because of my Liver. This is such a long process for it to be stop at that stage. At this point I would rather have the open RNY if it comes to that.

I have my pre op work up on april 17 and then I meet with Dr. on the 25th and I will ask him at that time.  I agree, i would rather have open vs. starting all of this over. Not to mention my insurance will be changing in june.. and my new insurance won't cover it!!  I'm being deligent on the diet... but I still worry.... cuz I have slipped up once or twice!!!  I will definately keep you posted.

I have a lot of fears, too!! I worry about not getting enough protein and losing my hair or damaging my liver. But, we can only do what we can do. It sounds goofy to me that the surgeon would interupt sugery for an enlarged liver. My surgeon, who has done many surgeries for several years, said 90% of bariatric patients have fatty livers (enlarged.) So, they should be pretty used to them! My surgery took longer than usual because I had scarring from a hysterectomy years ago. But, he was able to do it w/ the scope.

I know it is easy to say, but try not to worry. It will be OK and you will have new things to worry about!

Sue