Rant!! Feeling sorry for myself

Got a call from Dr. Wasco's office today!!  Not good I think?? Ok, I have got to get this out ~~ cause if I keep it in I am going to EAT!! and I don't want to do that.

All through all the Pre-op and informational meetings, Everyone talked about the RNY being the gold standard of WLS.  And I was really excited and looking forward to being healthy again. 

I have all the co-morbidities and Chronic Kidney disease ~~ I need to get off this diabetes medicine because of my kidneys and the other medicine they but me on darn near killed me so the put me back of the one that affects my kidneys with the kidney dr. blessing because I was waiting to have the RNY and would not need to take it.

So then I failed my psych eval and had to take the behavior modification group therapy for 8 weeks saw the nutritionist for 6 month every thing is done and ready to go.

Then they call from the surgeons office today and are talking about no RNY and doing the Vertical Gastric Sleeve and the code they use does not require prior authorization whatever the Heck that means.,

What??? I have wasted 6 months of weight loss time and now if I can't have the Gold Standard of RNY I am suppose to settle for second best!! 

That is exactly what I have done all my life and one of the biggest reasons I am single and weigh 350 lbs. 

Talk about a trigger boy am I in one!!

I specifically decided to have RNY WLS so that I would be healthier.  Dance and I mean really Dance and my Grandchildrens wedding, be able to walk the dog more than 1/2 a block, swim a lap at the pool. without feeling like I was going to explode.

I did not decide on this surgery to look better, to be more attractive, to attract the opposite sex, to try and impress people. But for my health and fitness.

So now I am suppose to settle for sloppy seconds!! Why bother why not stick with the stomach stapling from 1980 or so that the staple lined failed on and just go on the old stand-by High protein low carb diet??

If I am doomed to fail why bother???

Sorry not tryiing to hurt anyone's feelings  but I just feel like I have had the rug pulled out from under me.

Did Dr. Wasco's office explain why they thought this was a better option for you? You may not need the pre auth, but does medicaid cover the sleeve? There are pros and cons to each surgery.  I know you had your heart set on the rny and that is what you have been striving for the last 6-9 months!!! But maybe the sleeve is a healthier option for you? I'm not trying to say one way or the other, b/c I am not a health care professional, I just have to think that Dr. Wasco's office would have a reason for switching it up.  Do your research before banishing the idea all together. I know its ****ty, you  have all this time invested already, and its something you felt you should have known from the beginging.  Don't assume that you were denied insurance either.... When Dr. Wasco's office sends out a pre auth to ins. you will get a copy of the letter that is sent. AND I actually received my denial and then my approval before the dr's office received theirs. I'm sorry that you are upset, and I would be too. Its a lot of time to invest in something, but maybe there are health reasons they feel the sleeve would be the better option.  Sorry, I know that isn't exactly what you wanted to hear... 

Did you tell them you weren't interested in that particular surgery?  That you really only want the rny?

No, I have not I spoke to the surgeon for about 5 mins months ago and he said he could get me down under 200 lbs and I said I wanted to be at 156 and he said that part was up to me.  Other than that I was told by his nurse about this new turn of events.

What a mess this has turned out to be.

First I read everyones advise here and on my other board and decide everyone is right my body my choice need more research. 

Besides had a lot of questions about how this will impact insurance approval for later surgery.

So I pulled my self off the ceiling, out of the well, and did a thought record (cognitive therapy stuff).  Got my head out of my butt took the bull by the horn.  Ya da ya da~~

Called the doctors office. 

First why do I have to wait till April 10 to talk to him.  He is on vacation.

Did you get my email regarding insurance.  Yes but can not give you any difinative answers yet.

We are checking how ________________________ proceedure will affect things.

What proceedure?? I say

The one the doctor talked to you about (we discussed the VGS if RNY was not viable.)

That wasn't even the friggin' proceedure they were talking about some kinda new endoscopic proceedure that removes the old staple line and makes the stomach more like normal.  Then after that heals couple of weeks then they do the RNY!!! or the VGS they will know which they have to do after the proceedure.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGHHHHHHHHHHH!!  Feeling like an idiot!!!

Does that mean we can send for insurance approval and have it back by the time this proceedure is complete. 

Good question I will ask and let you know.

Moral of the story don't jump to conclusions!! Watch the blood pressure!!

I am sooooo sorry if I offended anyone with my rant 

But I feel so much better being proactive not reactive.

Lesson Learned :duh:

DON'T APOLOGIZE!!!!  Girl.. we have been there, we understand the long frustrating walk you are on right not to get the surgery!! We are here to help keep you level and offer adivse and suggestions for things you may not have thought of.  Due to the fact you had a previous stomache staple.. that is causing them to rethink that VSG may be best...but bottom line is they dnt' know until they get in there and see what they are working with.. and thats ok too!! They might get in and say..hey this chick can have the RNY after all... and then everything you have been through has been worth it. But.. if they the vsg is needed... then I would trust that they know best based on how your stomache looks from your previous insurance.  As for Dr. Wasco being on Vacation... I know...argh.. that was part of the reason my surgery was pushed back to the end of april!!!  Have you been to one of the support group meetings at Theda yet?  I am planning on attending one this Saturday.  One support group meeting cost 10 dollars until you buy the package that is required by surgical assoc. prior to surgery (its 240.00 just so you know)  this covers 12 support grp meetings, and the person  trainer and is required... just an fyi... anyway... if you wanted to go to a support grp meeting, i would be happy to attend w/ you... like I said I am going this saturday.. tomorrow.. at 9 am. Anyway..I gotta get my happy ass read for work!!!! Have a good one!!!!

Can't due it tommorrow have to next time where are the meeting??

the meetings are at theda... I will will get you the correct dates and times when I have a moment.