floundering since my decision to have surgery

I've posted on a few boards, and not gotten a heck of a lot of response, but I'm really hoping to just get a few kind words... Ever since I've made the decision to have surgery, and started down the road with the doctors, insurance, etc.  I have been emotially all over the place.  I've been extremely depressed most of the time, prone to tears, *****y and short-tempered, can't concentrate, and just generally difficult to live with.  My poor partner is just about beside herself, and I can't blame her, and I'm having such a hard time being there for my daughter... Did anyone else sort of fall apart once they made the decision to go ahead with WLS?  I feel like all those feelings I'd ignored about myself and my body and food in order to just cope day-to-day have all returned with a vengeance...  If so, how long did it last for you?  I can't imagine staying this way all the way through surgery, and in fact, I'm afraid I won't pass the psych eval in this state... HELP! xmasmama

Hi..     I think what you're going through is pretty normal. It's very emotional and it's a lifelong decision. I was really *****y and emotional about 2 weeks prior to surgery but was excited and happy to be doing it more then anything. Talk openly when you have your psych eval. Maybe you should get on Anti depressants prior to surgery. I had my surgery Oct. 15th and cry alot. I cry during sad commerials, sad songs, you name it. Just try to take it one day at a time and don't go through with the surgery until your ready. Good Luck. I hope it all works out.                                                                  Shari Oak Creek, WI

(((hugs))) It is totally normal.  And it lasted till the day of surgery for me.  I was an emotional basketcase from MONTHS...LOL.  And I still managed to pass my eval.   Try  to relax and remember that this is a stressfull time..and there are more to come...but it's all going to be worth it in the end...

Can we talk? I'm so glad I read your post.  I thought I was losing my mind.  I'm having my revision surgery next Wednesday.  I had a lap band removed, but not without having 3 surgeries when I had it.  3 slips and a gallbladder removal.  (Oops, that's 4 surgeries).  You would think I'm used to all of this by now, but for some reason my stomach is in knots, I'm having trouble sleeping, I'm moody, irritable, just out of sorts.  I really wish I knew why.  I don't have any problems having the revision.  In fact, I welcome it since all the previous problems.   I passed the psych eval with no problem.  He knew me from the first surgery so we talked a lot about how mad I was that no matter what I did, the Band just wouldn't work for me.  I hear from a lot of people that this is normal and will somehow magically disappear on the day of the surgery.  I do hope so. Good Luck

Well, from what everyone keeps telling me, we are both perfectly normal...  But I can totally empathize with the losing the mind feeling.  It's just something we get to struggle through, I guess.  But I'm sure we're both feel better once we come out on the other side.  Good luck!

Ok, you're going to get it from someone who is 3yrs out. Yes, you do "freak" out, get depressed, pissed and all that you listed above.   Feel free to read my profile and you'll see how much work we put into getting "approved". NOW,  here is some sage advise from a WLS grad.  Be prepared for the couple months after surgery if you think this is an emotional roller coaster. I am not trying to scare you but just what I went through.  I recovered without much complication and had great support from friends and family. Here are a couple things that I would've liked to know.  1. head hunger and relating to all those TV commercials, sitting at home recovering and having to be bombarded with all those food ads all the time.  Take a break from the tube cause it drove me nuts and made me feel like it was going to a loosing battle (no pun intended). 2.  this is hard work.  I am a big believer of the concept of the most rewarding things in life you have to work for.  WLS is no exception, so I think what you are going thru now will, believe me, make you stronger. 

3.  I woke up a little sad, kinda a fantasy, crap, I'm still fat.  Like going under the knife for 4 hrs was going to take away 100lbs.  Yes, that sounds a little wacked but that is what I felt. BUT!!!! WITH HIND SIGHT BEING 20/20, I WOULD HAVE THIS SURGERY AGAIN IN A HEARTBEAT.   I have my life, health, spring in my step, you name it, BACK. Dont get me wrong, it is still work to this day and I still have 52lbs to get to goal, but it is easier trying to get there with almost 100 lbs gone and NO medications. Good luck with your journey, Tammy