QOTD May 9

Good Morning Everyone! I hope you have had the same glorious weather we have had the past day - today may even break 80!! So the weather leads me to the QOTD today - sorry - but I have to set up the scene. Last night we were going to walk to school for the bike rodeo. (well, my husband & I walked - the kids rode their bikes). I was wearing a pair of olive green shorts and a matching tank top. My 7 year old daughter asked - Is that what you are wearing? I said yes - why? "I am going to be embarassed if you wear that." I was mortified! I called her over and asked her to explain what she meant. That is when I got the run around comments like "you are so pretty", "I thought the shorts were black and did not match your shirt" and of course "I don't know". I really pushed the issue with my daughter (probably more than I should have). So I got snippy and said "if you don't want your friends to see your Mama's fat arms - just tell me- I am very hurt that instead of telling me the truth - you lied" My first inclination was to take off the shirt and walk out of the house in my bra ( I know crazy - but if you want to be embarrased - I'll show you embarrassed!) luckily sanity came over me and I looked for another shirt - finally deciding to wear the tank top anyway. I announced to my daughter that I needed an apology by the end of the night and we went to the bike rodeo and had a great time. So -- long story long--- the question is: Have you ever had something like this happen to you - and what did you do about it? Thanks for the vent! Lori PS _ Lily did apologize for hurting my feelings and lying to me. (I guess the message got through

I can't say that I have had the exact thing happen, YET, but I do often feel other than health problems and wanting to be a better me I want to lose weight so that I won't embarass my children in the future. I have a 4 and 2 year old and I love them dearly they admire me and I'm fortunate that they are not at the age where they really understand that Mommy is over weight. HOWEVER, my 4 year old IS in the brutally honest stage which means I do get feedback like this.....I iron my pants and hold them up to make sure that the crease is just right...enters the 4 year old "wow, mommy's pants are soooooo big pants". Of course she means no harm and honestly only saying what she sees, but I can't WEIGHT for her to say "wow, mommy's pants are soooooo NOT big pants".

Well mine don't come from my kids it comes from my family and friends who have never been this big and don't understand that it is had for me to move alot, for instance this morning my DH and I were talking and we were just being funny and he kept mocking everything I said and then he asked me what I would do if our daughter did the same thing and I told him I would react the same as I did with him and out of nowhere he says how are you going to reach her when she's in the kitchen and your in the chair( I have my recliner in the living room) and all I could do was cry, He weighs about 130lbs so he has never delt with the problems like I have before all I want to know is why are adults sooooo insensitive? OK I'm done rambling thanks for listening. HUGS.... Marie

My kids are ages 5 (will be 6 on 5/19!), 4 and 20 months. A couple of months ago, my 5 year-old son caught a glimpse of my thighs when I was in my pajamas and just stared. He asked, " Why do your legs look like that? How come you are bigger than other mommies?" It was very innocent on his part and I addressed his questions with honest answers but it hurt me inside. Recently, my 4 year-old daughter was cuddling with me and was squeazing my upper arm. She said, "I love you my squishy mommy!" It was actually very cute and sweet and I thought that squishy mommy was funny. I then asked her what she would think if mommy wasn't as squishy anymore and lost weight (we haven't told our kids yet that I'm having surgery). She replied that she wouldn't like it- that she loved me being squishy (I love her for that unconditional love ). Then she asked, "Why? Is it bad to be squishy?". I told her simply that mommy would be healthier if I had less "squish". She accepted that. .I'm lucky that they are so young yet and realize that they may be more judgemental if they were any older.

Mine happened last season of american idol tryouts. They were showing the funny ones (that cant sing) my 7 year (6 at the time) was watching and there was this very large black lady on there and she said "look mommy , she looks like you " I knew what she meant but I said what do you mean ? And she replied , your fat like her . Omg . I wanted to crawl under the rug and stay there. Instead I explained to her that it hurt my feelings and that she should never comment on how someone looks unless its to say they are pretty. To this day se will not say someones fat. But after I talked to her I went to my room and cried for bout 10 minutes to ge out te hurt. My hubby did it too though. He was trying t explain to me how these brides maids looked and he said like you , and I said what do you mean ? He changed the subject but when I seen the brides maids I knew ..... They were fat. I never did bring it up but that was the last straw. 13 months later I had the surgery. Took 10 months to go through the process......

I am more critical of myself than my family is. My daughter who is 25 tells me I need to quit thinking about how I look and love me for the way I am. I went from 253 down to 127 and of course I have the flabby arms and legs. I will not wear sleeveless things or any shorts. My family including my husband think I look fantastic the way I am. I sure love them for that. Betty

I'm guessing Lily was just rebelling. A funny friend from work, skinny as they come, had his son ask him, "You aren't wearing THAT in front of my friends are you?" He wasn't even wearing anything unusual. So he told his son he'd go back and change. He got dressed up in a flannel shirt, striped shorts and rubber rain boots. He threw on a winter hat with ear flaps. Then he told his son he was ready to go! Of course, they had a good laugh and he changed back into his regular clothes but his son never said anything about his clothes again. When my kids got to 12 or 13 years old, everything I did was an embarrassment to them -- singing in the car, walking within 20 feet of them, talking to their friends, everything. So maybe Lily i****ting her teen years early. Ugh. Kids do grow up fast these days.