I have my own QOTD!

Don't mean to take your idea, Lori, in doing the QOTD- but I have one of my own! (Great idea by doing this, by the way I am pre-op and having read many, many profiles on this site, I realize that having this surgery can impact your personal relationships both good and bad. So here's my question for you post-ops: What impact has having WLS and your weight loss had on your personal relationships?

GREAT question Joelle! I'm pre-op as well, so I'll jus****ch for everyone elses responses. Thanks for posting this. Pam

My marriage has been so much better since I had WLS 4 1/2 years go. Now I am able to play with my son. Dont even get me started on the sex which Is a thousand times better now.

Thanks Joelle for putting up your own question - I loved getting the ball rolling - but I certainly do not want to dominate conversation. Concerning your question I am trying to "see myself" thinner and I imagine the additional things I can do. I am very excited to have the energy to try and keep up with my kids who are 5 and 7. I am nervous about the relationship with my husband. We have a strong foundation - but I hear horror stories of marriages breaking up because the newly thin person becomes interested in new things that they were not able to to in the past. I know my husband is comfortable with our relationship now. I have talked to him about this already - so at least it is "out there" if the need comes to bring his fears of my change to the table. Lori

Hmmmm, I am 6 months post-op and all I can say is life is GREAT!!! As far as personal relationships go...with my husband things seem a tad bit differrent in a good way. Sex is definitely MUCH better...lol. He seems to look at me differently and he takes a little more "ownership" in voicing his opinion on what he'd like to see me wear. I am almost 7 years younger than him, before surgery it didn't really seem to be noticeable because of my weight. Now that I have lost 82 pounds so far, you can tell I am definitely younger than him and he LOVES it...must be a guy thing...lol. My kids haven't really been affected at all by my surgery, I am still just mom to them. As far as everyone else I have relationships with...they all just keep telling me they can't believe how beautiful I am...as if I was a chubby duckling before As I said, I am only 6 months post op..in my own mind it has taken me a while to accept the physical changes because as post-opers what we see in the mirror isn't always "reality". When I look into the mirror, I am just now able to see the physical changes and accept them for what they are. I will say it DOES take your mental thought process a hile to catch up with all the phyical changes, so be patient with yourself. Hope you all have a great day! Amy

lts see personl relations ships I have been married for will 20 this july. I thought my husband would be more into me I guess you would say. But I have not seen any different response from him. He is not a big romantic kind of guy anyway. I am really disappointed in that though. Where I work nobody knows that I was ever heavy and lost wieght. or that I has this surgery and I feel like as a smaller person I am treated alot different. Like I am smarter or I know what I am doing more. Wich we all know is crazy. Betty

I really appreciate everyone's responses! My husband and I have a great relationship and I feel that it will only get stronger...and the sex better But we have talked about concerns that we both have for the changes that will come with this. We both look at this as an opportunity to get healthy... less knee pain, more energy, keep up with the young kids... and it has always been about that and not physical appearance. Of course, that comes with it, too! But I think we are both going into this with a healthy attitude and perspective. Thanks, again, everyone for the great responses!

I don't have a significant other - so that's not an issue with me. However, my dearest friend and I have had several conversations about the fears we both have that our relationship may change. We are the same size right now - and she is worried that I will 'forget' her when I am able to do more things, and I'm afraid she will resent me for being able to do more things - lol! We are just really trying to keep the communication open as our friendship is dear to both of us!

Well, so far so good for me and mine. The sex is way better with my husband for sure. My dogs are happier because they get a lot more leftovers. The people I work with are about the same. I get a little more attention from guys that never talked to me before. I feel this tiny bit of jealousy from a few women here and there. I really don't think I have changed all that much though and neither have my closer relationships with my family.

I havent had my surgery yet but Ive had discussions about this issue with my sig other.  We have been together for 7 years and I wanted to make sure that he was feeling comfortable with the changes that are going to happen for me. He is making a list of things we will be able to do for the first time or in a more fun and exciting way  !  We are both looking forward to that. Terri