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Some surgeon I have... this man, even though he is a colonel, doesn't know his butt from the hole in the ground. Sure he knows about the surgery process, but he knows nothing about nutrition, or even how a patient should be eating afterwards, the nutrients a patient should take in... he's oblivious to the fact that I need help, obviously. That or he just doesn't care. I asked for a referral to the nutrition clinic, and was pretty much denied, because he didn't fill one out. He thinks they are morons, I think they are going to help me live. So, he ordered labs, I am 5 months out, and he counted this checkup as my 6 month, and has not had labs done since the day before surgery. I have to fast for 11 hours and have this mess done. Wouldn't that nearly kill a post-op? I went to group today too. I felt so stupid, I started crying when we were talking about husbands, and how mine just left. I am a mess, and they all know it, but they are all trying to help get me on the right path. Dr. Stone wants me to start seeing her one on one, and I kinda feel like it would be a good idea too. As depressed as I am, and how little sleep I get, it's no wonder I haven't had a break down. I went to a friends house today after group, and was so distraught, I just lost it. I started bawling, I got mad, I didn't know what else to do but let it out. I stayed the rest of the day there, too. In fact, I didn't leave until 1:30, and thats coz she was falling asleep. I am so lonely and so bored and so depressed, and I have no idea what to do with myself. I need something to fill my time with. I need adult conversation. I need my best friend back. I hate the Army sometimes, why do they make them leave for so long? Even the marines only leave for 3 month tours. It's stupid. I hate it. It's not fair that us spouses have to sit at home all alone and worry about bombings and if they will live to see the reunion. This is the only part I hate about the Army. I am just so frusterated, and I can't let Mark see it, because it's only going to upset him too. I miss him so much. I am done now... I will write more later.

You know..When I was in the Army, we as NCOs did not understand the civillian Army wife.....Now I see it is truly a chore another job almost ....Even with me knowing how the system works, I still get really mad when my hubby have to go with 3 day notice for a couple of weeks....I was still in when they gave him 2 weeks to go to Korea for a year and I had just had my baby....BAD YEAR....(another story) Even though it is a war, you can't think about that all the time...Just pray and know that he will be safe ....Think about about going to that gym in a sexy dress with your pretty little girl in a few months to get him...Live life so when he calls you have fun stuff to talk about....School starts next Monday on post, take a class or two. OR even Clover Park has fun classes in the afternoon like floral design and cake decorating (I took that, saves money at B-days) If you need play dates to get out....please call me, our girls are about the same age and I have tons of Chuckee Cheese coupons and don't live too far from base...Yeah, it is hard but if you hubby know that his family is ok...He'll be ok..And go to the appts with the DR..It helped me a lot just having someone to talk to....Good Luck Girl..Your pretty and strong and have started the hardest job of your life...But you will make it through...

Hi, I really don't have any advice but I wanted to give you hugs. You sound so sad. I couldn't handle my hubby being gone 1 month let alone a whole year!!! You are a very strong woman and I commend you. I agree with the other poster that you will look dynamite when he does come home. Get into the gym as much as possible... it will help with your mood too. I pray for his safety as well as all of the other soldiers there. My mom's nephew (my cousin) is over there too. Keep up the good work sweety and know that we are all here for you. Lori

I am so sorry that all this is happening to you! I worry that you don't eat enough. Make sure you get a lean protein with each meal, but do fruits, veggies, and whole grains, too. Get your calcium, vitamins, and water. We ALL need a nutritionist in this new journey, and you're right, they are life-savers! Please push to get one because you should have the irght to one. Big hugs from the World Wide Web, Chris

Big Hugs to you!! I am a Navy wife so I understand DH being gone. Email me if you ever want to express emtions cause I can relate. I have two little boys 4.5 and 3, we have been without DH since May, so I understand what its like being that dual parent too. HUGS HUGS AND MORE HUGS! Its goos to cry also, better than keeping it pent up. maria

**I asked for a referral to the nutrition clinic, and was pretty much denied, because he didn't fill one out. He thinks they are morons, I think they are going to help me live. ** As you know I had my surgery at Madigan and I was told it was protocol for ALL gastric bypass patients to see the nutritionist, so if I was you I'd call patient advocate and complaine that you wern't given a referral to see them. After all it was mandatory for you to see the nutritionist before surgery, so why not after when it's even more important?!? Have you called the appointment line and tried to get one? Maybe by now the referral has gone thru if he did it once you left the office. I know you know I know what you're going thru. I had surgery while dh was in Iraq (for those of you who didn't know....lol) and hopefully you automatically know I'm here for you. Wanna come over, then come over. Wanna just bs, then we'll bs. Our orders for Hawaii got pushed back so I'll be in the area for almost the rest of the year, so I'll definately be here for you while Mark is gone. HUGS! ~Tanja