Not interested in the same things I used to be?

Has anyone else experienced this? And if so, how did you deal with it?

I had RNY on 11/12. Since then, I have had an extreme change in the things that I used to like to do. For example, I absolutely loved my job! I enjoyed my co-workers, and enjoyed what I did every day. Now...I dread getting up in the morning. I almost feel as if the place is no longer worth my time! And the co-workers that I used to hang out with even outside of work...I could care less about. I've literally put my career in jeopardy because of my lax attitude. I've also noticed that I no longer have an interest in my previous hobbies. My hubby and I used to watch movies all the time and had a more sedentary lifestyle. Losing this weight has made me more active...but what do I do with the energy other than workout? I feel so lost in this changing body. I don't know what I like to do anymore. I almost feel as if I'm a different person, and I'm not sore what to do with this new person. Did it take you guys a while to "re-learn" yourself?

I haven't been through surgery yet, but I suspect what you're going through is somewhat normal.  There are so many changes going on in your body. I know most (but not all) of us posting in here are pre-op, so you might want to post this in one of the other forums - you might get more response there. I do know that with extra energy things do begin to change...I mean you have to do something with all of it.  Relationships can change too.  Make sure you keep your communication open with your husband. Also, to help you sort through some of the emotions that you are dealing with, talking to a counselor might be helpful. I hope this helps at least a little! *hugs* ~Annie

Hi there Seattle. As you know I am pre op to but I think this is normal for anyone going through big changes in their lives.  Your focus in life has changed, are your job and co-workers remminding you of who you used to be??  I find that I have been angry with myself off and on lately(usually at work)for allowing myself to get into this shape and waiting so long to have this surgery. It will  take some adjusting on everyones part to get used to the new you that is coming to be.  Have you coworkers attitudes change towards you?  From what i haave read on the boards it takes some people al long time to get used to some aspects. A far as hubby goes what kinds of things is he interested in that are active??  I know I made mine promise that we would take ball room dancing lessons togther.LOL  Going for walks, hikes, yard sales, musems??  If your in seattle go wander pikes market and fine a wonderful fruit or veggie or fish (yum)to make for the weekend.  Try it all and you will find something new that you like. I promise. Hope I helped a bit.

Hi Jillian! Your countdown continues...YAY! My hubby has been super supportive. Even though he wants to sit around and watch movies he still goes out and does "active" things with me. We actually made a list before surgery of some old and new things that we can do together to keep our marriage happy and to stay active. That has helped alot. So maybe I worded my original post wrong. It's not hubby that's the problem, it's just that I don't know what types of things to do. I guess, I DON'T KNOW HOW TO BE ME ANYMORE....BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW WHO I AM ANYMORE. I used to be the "fat friend" who joked about my belly as I chomped on cake or pizza. I'm still WAY overweight and still much heavier than my friends, but I know I'm changing and I know I won't be that way forever. I no longer think it's funny that I put my health and LIFE in jeopardy as I once did. I don't want to go hang out at bars anymore because 1. I can't drink alcohol yet, and 2. that's just sitting around on my a$$, not being productive. Bars is just one example.... Anyhoo, I think I should just expand a list for myself and add things to it that I have never done before...maybe something will peak my interest.

Thanks for the support!

Let me know how it goes and then you can tell me what to do in 2-3 months. LOL

I think the whole process is getting to know who you REALLY are.  It is an adventure.  Explore.  Discover who you're meant to be! One idea -- find something you can volunteer to do.  You might find it to be an extremely rewarding experience! Lori