I'm 5'4 and starting weight was near 280. I had vsg and lost over 20lbs in my first month. I had to have vsg because I have a blood clotting disorder called factor 5 leiden and I'm on blood thinner. I was afraid I wouldn't qualify for surgery, but am so happy I had vsg! I would suggest making a written list of questions and statements about you wanting vsg. Your input is taken into consideration, don't shy away from addressing your concerns.

Hi Ladies!

Surgery in 2014 - did amazing for a long time. Weight has crept up about 20 lbs. I need to get back down to my happy weight. It's hard being home and life as it is now. I only wear sports bra, sweats and t-shirts - way too comfortable. Also grazing is a problem. Hoping to find some motivation.

Psren, you have been through alot! Wishing you the best getting back on track.

Trust me some of us have been here for over 10 years and we have seen a lot of things.

Maybe there is something else that they both like to do that doesn't involve food. Movies, mini golf, just a walk, that they can do for their date night instead.

My husband has always been supportive of me and it was him in 2003 who suggested I look into WLS. He just wanted me to be healthy and active. Now the tides have turned and he got a back injury 3 years ago. He was depressed and gained weight which didn't help his back. He had tried on and off for the last few years to lose the weight and just recently came across a Dr. on youtube who is a holistic doctor from Sweden. The way the doctor talks about things and explains things peaked my husbands interest. It really motivated him to lose the weight, get off his sugar meds, and be more active. So I have been right there encouraging him and helping him in any way I can.

I think communication in a relationship is the key. I hope things work out for them.

White Dove, it's strange to think that my son in law may be thinking she will be attractive to someone else, but then we don't understand the psychology of others, so I'll just get the book and ask her to consider reading it, and to join this website and find some friends on this website. I found the second edition of the book online for about $10.

I know she had a psychological evaluation prior to surgery, but it doesn't seem like there are enough warnings as to the great changes in the relationship that can occur. Theirs might not be major yet, but if they don't communicate clearly and honestly, I can tell it could get to that point, and with two children in the mix.

This is good insight for me, don't forget to communicate, even without surgery!

You know her best and how she will react. I used to buy that book for friends when they had weight loss surgery, but it used to cost about $20. I was surprised at how expensive it is now. I had my surgery in 2007 and found it very useful then.

I remember the head of our surgery center saying that it is possible to keep your marriage together after weight loss surgery but it is not always easy. Seeing a big change in your partner is very life changing for you too.

One day, my husband said that I was no longer the person her married. I said, "thank you". He said he did not mean it as a compliment. I told him that I did not work so hard to remain the person that he married.

Many men think that their new thin wife will attract attention from other men and might leave the marriage. And sometimes that does happen. There are emotional things going on and the couple has to work through them together.