post op 6 mths need advice

You can lose as much and for as long as you like. But ScaleSkater is right, it is on you.

There's no magic to any weightloss surgery and there's rarely BS on this forum, (and it will get called out) which is why it's the most helpful out there. If you want platitudes, there are a ton of other groups that will pat your hand and encourage habits that will sabotage your long term success.

So you don't agree that plateaus are a reality and you are saying that when you eat right weight will always come off every time you step on a scale? I know for me that I eat almost exactly the same thing, and sometimes I lose weight on the scale and sometimes my body will wait until my hormonal cycle comes around to give up the weight on the scale. If we deny that plateaus exist why even have the term?

I'm ok with it if you want to call me wrong, but this is the kind of thing that I have read online about the existence of plateaus: "Hitting the dreaded plateau happens to most people, even after weight loss surgery. Don't become discouraged. You and your body have gone through a lot; the metabolism needs time to catch up and adjust to hormonal changes and new calorie levels. There will be periods in your weight loss where the metabolism has to re-regulate itself to new habits and weight."

Nobody said that at any point in this thread.

I also didn't see anyone being unsupportive or being mean until you decided that someone's reply wasn't to your liking.

Adjustments have to be made to be successful -for the rest of your life - but what would I know?

If you stick around, you'll get to know your audience and that people here rarely DON'T know what they're talking about.

I agree that answers like "It's all you! 100% what you are eating " aren't very helpful. A short stall is normal, and no reason to jump to the conclusion that the OP's diet is bad. Even if it is, this is a learning experience for all of us, and making someone feel guilty doesn't promote learning. I know you are all simply trying to be honest, not hurt people's feelings.

Steffryn, you may have simply hit a stall, which is a natural part of the weight loss process. When this happened to me a while back, I posted on the forum, and sure enough the next day I lost a bunch of weight "overnight". (And I'm still losing to this day, 16 months out, on basically the same diet.) I'd give it another week before being concerned.

Of course, what you're eating might be a problem. For that reason, it can be very helpful to post a typical day's menu on here, and see what suggestions people have. Usually a small tweak can make a big difference without making you feel deprived.(Warning: There are a few people on this forum who are convinced that there's only one type of diet that works. The most reliable research shows that low cal and low carb diets are basically equally effective, so the recommendation is that you choose the one that you find easiest to stick with.)

I think your post is well worded but I skimmed through the other posts and could agree with all of them too, oy vey... I wish that tone and intent could be easily assessed online because I really feel that on OH most posters who take the time to respond are trying to be not only helpful, but honest from their experience and sometimes honestly isn't flowery. Yet I realize this issue is complicated. While it is possible to eat around any WLS, I feel like at 6 months it is likely a plateau and normal but I am only speaking from my experience and it could be so many other things that others have also mentioned. I hope the OP stays around OH and can learn from others and find the support in a way that inspires continued weight loss and personal growth.

Sorry. No judgement intended. Just saying it's all on us. The surgery is a tool just like MFP or other action. Our bodies don't lose linearly so fast and slow rates happen. Nothing magic about those just like the surgery isn't magic. Simplistic okay, I accept that. But work is work and focus is focus.
My point was to say to stay on plan regardless. I believe the body is an accountant and all stalls end, just like they started. There's no hokus pockus. Just keep working your tool. But if after months and months of nothing, you have to really look at what you are doing and makes changes. I've had friends tell me they eat 800 calories and aren't losing. When we sat down and talked I learned they drank coffee all day. What the 3 creamers per 12 oz don't count? Oh you take 6 prunes a day as medicine. Okay doesn't that count? Oh you don't count dressing and condiments..... I calculated she was almost double her 800 calories. But I'm sure there was more other areas. It is a function of how we manage our program. My point was focus, makes changes if need. Look at what you are doing. But in the end it's on us to do it. This surgery is never on autopilot as never should we be.

Thanks. I can agree that we do need to stay on plan.

I apologize for using the word judgemental, that was wrong of me and I have edited it out. I know we are all just trying our best to help people out.