Obsessed before and after

Thank you!

I totally agree with NYMom22 that it's harder for other people. One of the biggest issues I've had is dealing with people telling me I'm too skinny. I'm not. I'm solidly in normal BMI at this point, but I'm very small framed (who knew!) and very "athletically" built (read: straight up and down). People get really concerned and I hate that they focus on it, but would have never said anything about my obesity!

For me, how I see myself focuses on how I compare to other people. My sister has always been super thin, so I'll try on her clothes because then my brain has to acknowledge that I consider her thin - so I must also be thin. If that makes sense?

I've lost 145lbs total

Whoa you look amazing too! Perfect size. My mom (who had the RNY) told me about the haters. Do you think it's jealousy? I notice when I tell people about my surgery they always have a horror story for me. I've stopped talking about it. Why there is such a negative view of weightloss surgery is beyond me. Anyways you look beautiful and healthy. Thank you for sharing with me.

For some, it may be, but they generally don't show concern they just either don't address it at all (which is totally fine) or they get snarky about what I choose to eat, etc. I think folks are genuinely concerned, and they don't need to be. I just hate that society says it's ok for them to show concern for being normal, but not for being obese!

That has to be irritating. It's already the topic of concern at my job. Every time I eat lunch everyone is worried about what is in my lunch bag and I haven't even had surgery yet!

For me I am coming up on my two year anniversary of surgery on the 28th and I have lost over 200 pounds and I honestly still have a hard time seeing myself the way that others see me now. Logically I know that I am way smaller then I have ever been in my life but when I look down and see the extra skin it still makes me feel like I look heavy. I was obese my whole life, even in middle school I was wearing 18/20s and was a 24 when I graduated high school, I now am in 8-10s. It helped me a lot to take pictures every month in front of my bedroom door. I always took one from the front and one from the side and always in that same location so I could see how much of the doorframe was filled with my body so I could see the difference as I lost.

Just amazing! I can't imagine. I haven't worn a dress since elementary school. Just the change in clothing has to feel so awesome. You look so good! You should be very proud. I can't wait!

I never thought I would consider plastic surgery but I find myself considering it as an option in a few years. I was obese for "only" 7 or 8 years and yo-yoed a lot during that time, so being a normal weight just feels like finally getting back to my "real" self. The loose skin, saggy butt and deflated breasts are the most shocking parts but I feel wonderful in clothes. I have days when I feel large and days when I feel small and it never seems to have anything to do with the number on the scale.

This seems realistic. I feel I will be similar. I'm sure there is a struggle accepting the skin. I hope you can eventually get plastics if that is what your heart desires. I'm already anticipating/researching, and I haven't had WLS yet!