Obsessed before and after
I too have been obese since I was a baby. So much depends on what your body will look like after losing massive amounts of weight. Your age, genetics, how much excess body weight you carried, and for how long. The younger you are, the better chances you have of your skin rebounding a bit...not completely, but some. If you're old, like me (lol), you realize that there IS going to be excess skin, and it ain't gonna be pretty! Before surgery, I knew that I was probably going to have a lot of ugly excess skin, droopy boobs, and a massive turkey wattle (I had at least 3 chins before!). I have been pleasantly surprised at how good my neck looks, but everything else has been pretty true to form. From the waist down I look like a 95 year old...but you know what? I don't care.
When I see myself naked now, instead of being repulsed, I experience a mixture of happiness and laughter. I am so happy at how much smaller I am, and the wrinkly, saggy skin on my upper thighs and ass just make me giggle like a kid. Nothing I can do about it, so I'm embracing the "ET"ness of it! If I ever win the lottery, I will have plastic surgery. Since that's not likely to happen, I have learned to wear short sleeve shirts and not care if people see my batwings. The rest they can't see, and a good bra gives the illusion my boobs look better than ever! In clothes, I'm happy with the way I look.
When I pass a mirror or a window reflection, I still sometimes stop and stare in awe that the reflection is really me. I look so much like my mother now, and I love that!
Love yourself for the healthy new woman you will be!
My self portraits: snorts
OMG you are the best! The before and after has me dying. What a great out look!!!! My husband and I watched skin tight the other day. There was a young lady 10 years younger than me, she lost as much weight as I need to, and she had a ton of skin. I'm realistic. I asked my husband if he'll still be attracted to me, he looked at me shockingly, and said "of course, I love you Shannon". He was so sincere and sweet. Made me feel better. I truly want to love me. I've been doing a lot of self reflecting, and of course this forum is extremely inspiring. Thank you.
My hubby, who is amazingly awesome, admitted that if we met now he wouldn't find me as attractive as when we met. He really likes a nice butt on a woman, and doesn't care for the "skinny look". My but has gone flat for the first time in my life... I've been at goal weight as an adult, and I never lost my butt so it was a surprise when it disappeared and went flat. My breasts are also deflated.
It sounds like he was being mean. But he really wasn't, we were having an honest open conversation about the changes since WLS. He still finds me amazing and attractive, loose skin and sagging or not. Once you establish an intimate relationship with someone, the attraction is about much more than just the physical.
I'm planning to start some weighted workouts to try and round the butt out, and am starting to consider breast augmentation that I never thought I'd be interested in. Of course, I'm not even to goal yet and think I need to be at goal at least a year before surgery, and there's funding to obtain as well. Hubby is completely supportive of whatever I decide on skin surgery. It may be a bad idea with my chronic illness to have surgery, we'll have to see. Until I have surgery, there's exercise to try and firm things up, shapewear to hold in the skin, and creative lingerie to make the girls look better. LOL.
HW 306 - SW 297 - GW 175 - Surg VSG with Melanie Hafford on 8/17/2016
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