advice on newly sleeved coworker and what she is eating

I am very concerned regarding a coworker who is 3 weeks postop. She is eating grilled chicken, bread with sips of water to get it down, candy etc

I have supported her through the entire process since I am a successful sleever.

I spoke with her about the dangers of what she is eating, stomach nerves cut, no idea what damage she could be doing etc

I am at a loss as to what to say or do? I would like some advice and direction.

Thanks

All you can do is tell her once and mind your own business.  I have a very morbidly obese friend who I tried to convince to get the sleeve until I realized she really doesn't want to stop eating.  I have since stopped trying.  I cannot be responsible for her.  Sadly, neither can you.

If she asks for your advice, I would ask her if she is following her surgeon's plan. Otherwise I would say nothing. We can be good role models, but sadly we can't make anyone do the right things.

There is nothing more you can do, unless she asks for help.

Like others have said, let her be. You can't make someone change; only they can. I've tried to get my mom to stop smoking since I was 7 years old; 18 years later, and she is still smoking. There's nothing I can do to make her quit.

If she stalls a lot in her weight or even gains weight, and she begins complaining, then you can tell her you tried to give advice, but she refused to change. It's basically saying, "I told you so", which will probably make her mad, but I'm sure she will be fine.

One of my best friends had the sleeve done about five years ago.  He has since regained over 80 lbs.  He absolutely refuses to eat right, and it was bad enough that when he came to visit me a week after my own surgery, he taunted me about the things I could no longer eat.  That came as close to anything could to breaking the friendship.  I think a big part of his problem now is seeing my success so far.  

I tried on a couple of occasions to make some headway with him.  There is nothing you can say, nothing you can do.  Despite what many people think, we are ultimately responsible for our own self, and no one else.  On the flip side of that, no one can compel us to make changes we are not willing to make.  I used to tell my children - "I can't make you do that, but I can make you wish you had."  Life has consequences, and by now your coworker knows all about them.  Whether she chooses to acknowledge them or ignore them is up to her and her alone.  

"I can't make you do that, but I can make you wish you had". Putting that one in the brain bank for my 7 & 10 year old's! 

Haha, here is another one that you are welcome to use if you like.  When the girls would be given a task, there would occasionally be resistance.  That would come in the form of a tantrum, whining, arguing, or whatever.  So I would say, "I'll give you two choices.  You can do what I asked.  Or, you can fuss and scream, get yelled at, get punished, and THEN do it."  This often resulted in compliance, even though it was often accompanied with muttering and eye rolls.  

I also have two girls, so I'm very familiar with that form of resistance ;) 

The only thing you can do is set a good example.