Pending surgery, having second thoughts. If you had to do it all again, would you?

One of the best decisions I made - only regret is that I didn't do it sooner!

I would recommend surgery to everyone I love who might need it.  I personally would have surgery every month if that is what it took.

Losing weight is one thing, keeping it off is another. It doesn't matter what your friend and mil want, this is your life. Just do it. I seriously doubt you will regret it

Yes I'd have done it years ago and would still choose VSG over other options (personal preference vs. own personal weight loss issues and post op. medication restrictions). I had cold feet too. Its normal.

I'm 8.5 years out.

I did my surgery when I was 35. I'm 43 now.

 

Before surgery:

I had major back pain, herniated disc, ankle pain, joint pain. And feel all around unmotivated, fat and unable to move without being in pain.

 

After surgery:

You're only in REAL pain a few days after, your body needs to heal. The rest of the pain is HEAD pain. Your mind playing tricks on you until you know how to deal with it. Or head hunger as they call it. The images that we see on tv, the ads, magazines of huge plates of food that we think we can still consume but cannot.

 

The Pros that I did not expect:

Learning about nutrition. It's so good to finally know the right way to eat and how to feed my family and fuel their bodies. Between my husband and I we have 8 kids. Many are athletes. One child is a dancer(4 days a week of training). I wouldn't have ever known otherwise.

The Cons:

I'm low in iron and low in B12. I take these supplements daily. A great trade off for all the negatives listed above!!!!!!!!

 

Don't listen to anyone else but yourself though. You can only do this for YOU.

 

aloha,

michelle

YES!! Best decision I have ever maid (I was self-pay). My only regret is that I did not get my VSG sooner! :-) Kay

Would do it again tomorrow. But in the end, the only opinion that matters is your own. Tell everyone around you to stop with the "advice" already, then take a few days for yourself to think it through.

My husband is on the fence about having the surgery himself. I have my own opinion about his having surgery, but he will have the final say, and that's the only one that matters.

Good luck with whatever your decide.

 

psychoticparrot

My only regret is not having surgery years ago!!! Totally worth it.... Every second of it!!!

and my hubby and I are going to start trying to conceive next year.... I'm just under 4 months post op, and only 25-30 lbs from my goal and also 33 yrs old. Other have gotten pregnant very quickly after surgery, even without trying. 

My only concern with your post is that you don't mention your desire to have a family. Just remember whether you have surgery or not, this is your life to live, your body, and your family. Don't let others rush you or dictate your timing. 

I wish you  the best :)

One thing that helped sell me on having the surgery before having kids was a research study that my surgeon told me about. He said they tracked mothers who had surgery vs. those that hadn't for about 20 years after their children were born. They found that women who were at a lower weight (because of the surgery) were more likely to have children grow up to be a normal weight than mothers who didn't have surgery (and I assume were overweight or obese). This means my surgery gives my future children a chance at having a healthier life. 

Meg~

Hi! I'm 28 and currently 10 days pre-op, my surgery is 12.17.15 and I already know I am making the right decision. Things have been falling into place with work, my personal life and my family that never quite felt right and I haven't even had surgery yet. I desperately want children or even just one child would be fine but I know I need to be a healthy weight to do so because I owe it to my someday child(ren) to be a healthy mommy. My boyfriend (who has sole custody of his 2 year old daughter from a previous relationship) wants more children (specifically with me of course) but understands we need to wait about 2 years and knows waiting will be what is best for us as a family. Women have children well into their 40s and they are fine. My mom had me at 34 and that was in 1987. My Grandma had he last child of 6 in her 40s and that was in the 1970s and two of my aunts had little boys in their mid to late 40s in the mid 2000s. You have time, you are very young. That being said no one can make this decision but you. Politely ask your family who have baby fever to stop pressuring you and let you make your own decisions whatever they may be. Good luck!

This is the best decision I have ever made! I wish I would have done it at 29 instead of 39!

Like you, I did it on my own too....I lost a good amount of weight more than once & each time it would come back plus 10 additional lbs! I need this tool to keep me in check and for me to maintain my health! I could have lost 100 lbs on my own, but I guarantee I would already be gaining it back! 

You mentioned being miserable! Not once have I been miserable....even post op! I have reclaimed my health and I couldn't be happier!

You won't regret this decision!