saggy -stretched skin

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So I finally got through the rain so to speak , got down to a size 4, exercise like mad- now working on strength training in attempts to tighten up my loose saggy tummy and arms if that can ever happen.

Come to find out my spouse who is overweight tells me my stomach looks likea burn victim and all the sags, marks etc are just too much.

He goes on to point out my arms , and veins in my hands are poping out and seems to be highly critical of me.

my plan was to get the tummy tuck providing I can manage to cover the cost - but then I thought why? When I was really heavy he said, if you just lose the weight.......blah, blah, blah....so I have, now it is this.

I really don't know what to think- in clothes I look good without my tummy has some extra fat that I am trying to work On.

not sure what to think. maybe I am being too sensitive here? I was ready to thow in the towel because I told him I need someone to love me as I am- and I don't need a shallow hal. Especially when he is over weight but yet I would not tell him he is unattractive.

Playing with the self esteem side of things with your spouse is cruel I think.