Divorce and Stalling

So, I am 13 Months Post Op. My husband and I split a month ago. I haven't lost anything since. It took me losing this weight to see the abuse. When I tried to leave him, thing got really ugly. I have an order of protection in effect. He's been stalking me, tried to run my car off the road, cost me my job, etc. He is in jail for breaking the Protection Order. He broke into my house and stole some of my belongings including VERY personal ones. He wrote messages all over the walls in our house in bright red crayon.

Needless to say, I have been very stressed and not sleeping well. My weight loss has come to a screeching halt. But, I was left with very little food options and no money. Things are starting to settle.

I need to get back on track, but I am lacking the motivation...and I am struggling with feelings, negative feelings about my self worth.

I am in a place where I am questioning whether or not I will ever succeed in meeting my goals. I feel so sad and confused.

I don't know what to do.

I am so sorry to hear about your relationship troubles and what you have had to deal with. Sounds scary! Praying things start looking up for you and you are able to break your stall!

It might be a good idea to find a professional counselor/therapist/etc. to help you work through things. Sometimes we need some outside help-- and with cir****tances like these I think that qualifies!

You may also want to check-in with your surgeon to make sure everything is OK (blood work, etc.) and get some suggestions for getting back on track.

Sending good thoughts your way!

I agree with sparklekitty you need to see someone to maybe help you with coping mechanisms you are so close to goal I wish you the best and totally feel for you be strong!

So sorry your husband is being a jerk....glad he's in jail.  You have done great, and your strength is evidenced by the fact you have taken action against your husband.  Have you spoken to any victims' advocates to help you deal with your situation?  I think it would be helpful to you.

Stay strong!! You are a winner!!

Yes, a gal from Crime Victims Services has been helping me with all of the paperwork and what not. She referred me to a counselor. I will be seeing her next week for the first time. I really hope it helps because it is really hard to get him out of my head. He's gone and I still hear his voice ridiculing me. It is really hard, but I am going to try not to let this ruin me. I have worked way too hard to get this far! I need to finish this...god, as hard as I hear it is, I just want to reach maintenance. Seems like things would be easier.

Emotional abuse is very hard... Leaves very, very deep scars in our soul. 

I sent you PM. Please take care... 

Can you move away and stay with relatives for a while??

I hope the therapist helps you come up with a plan to get your life back in order after all of his abuse. Just try to do the best you can with your eating while you sort everything else out.

You are 13 months post op and very close to goal and under incredible stress. Weight loss will be slow. Just care for yourself and use your skills and pouch to the best of your ability and the lbs will come off. You might stall for a while but it will work out.

Please stay safe. Your safety is the most important thing. The eating can wait until your life settles down again. Like Laura said, just do your best for now. Good for you for leaving him, taking care of yourself and for getting help. You deserve all the support you can get.