Why is everyone around me so negative?

I wish you all the best!!

Do you have any pre existing conditions that can be blamed on weight..IE: high blood pressure, type 2 or cholesterol?. I didn't meet the BMI requirements but had pre existing that pushed me over the edge...

IF NOT...

Ok I'm probably gonna get **** for this but here it goes anyway...

I calculated your BMI...At your height/weight it's 38.4

put on the weight so it's covered...you'll take it off anyway in the pre-op diet...

Its terrible to say, but this surgery is a life saver, instead of yo-yo-ing for the next

who knows how many years..just do it..the ends justify the means.

also it's better not to discuss this with anyone...

i posted something years before I actually had surgery..

something like...oh god I have to lose weight...I think it's time to look into surgery..

well every negative Nell came out, saying....

"my friends, sisters, uncles brother had this and he's miserable/died"

then and there I shut my trap..I told 1 friend and my sister (who I knew would be supportive) 

thats it...told my dad the day before surgery..and he was fine with it 

(I just didn't want it sitting in his mind to be worried)

I wish you much luck and success and all those people who had something to say,

will either continue to have something to say...or

be happy for you when they see your happy..

good luck and keep us posted.

Gray,

I agree with you. I gained weight to qualify for the insurance. It's worked out great. Wouldn't change a thing.

Robin

I'm having the same issue with negative comments and why can't you just try to lose it naturally and I have heard it all.  Stick to your guns it's gonna be a success and then they all will be eating theri words.  I'm due to be sleeved on the 12th of August and it can not come fast enough for me I'm excited for new journey as you should be too.  Chin up it will be ok.

Hello Spideygirl7133,

  I will be sleeved on 7/27 but as was previously said if there are other health issues it would be approved. I have type2 diabetes but have never been put on medication because I kept it under control not sure how but I also have a severe case of sleep apnea. I am also 5'2"and was at a weight of 206 when I first seen the surgeon on the same day as my orientation and was given a surgery date the same day for 6/29/15 but I got a cold and could not proceed with surgery at the time. I did also see on utube that someone had said to request that your Dr speak directly with the Insurance Dr if your Dr thinks it is justified for you to have the surgery.

Good Luck to you.

 Oh and I forgot to say that I had already lost 20 lbs previously due to some stress with my husbands health in Oct.

Your mother is a psychologist and she is putting that kind of guilt trip on you?

And as others have stated, if you think getting the sleeve means no more steak, then you need to re-evaluate your plan.  I can eat whatever I want, good or bad.  Just not very much of it at one time.

Have you ever considered getting your revision done in Mexico?  I have never had the band but did get my sleeve in Mexico and the prices are MUCH cheaper, even with the necessary airfare.  But it is not for everyone and I totally get that.  Just thought I would throw it out there for you.

Fyi my BMI was only 37 but was approved due to comorbid conditions in my family history, plus ACL sprain and insomnia. 

I also have negative people, but with my final decision I didnt include them. I am the only one that has to live in my skin and I feel like I made the right choice for a healthier future.

God Bless and good luck!!!

I played games with the negative comments -- such as the diet competition before surgery -- when people would ask if have tried...  Weigh****chers had the most suggestions, followed by Jenny Craig and the ever-popular "just eat less".  Laughing at them made it easier for me. 

When it was a straight negative comment instead of a "suggestion", I'd play the Debby Downer wink wonk noise in my head.  If you don't know it, play some Debby Downer youtube clips. 

Now, I play "wait for it", which is a game I play waiting for the backhanded slap at the end of a weight loss compliment.  Unfortunately, it happens more than you'd anticipate.  I count insulting my past self in this game.  This week, we had a big loser who added at the end of our conversation, "never go back".  Pffft!  I also tell myself a few times a day to Just Keep Swimming, This Too Shall Pass, and Shake It Off!