What do I say?

aharris30
on 2/21/15 11:37 pm
VSG on 05/13/14

I have been told by many people to stop losing weight and that I look fine. I am 200lbs and I still have 25lbs to go before I get to my goal weight. I finally calculated my BMI and I'm over weight and not obese anymore. What do I say to these people? This is becoming a weekly question now.

    

  

Rachel M.
on 2/21/15 11:41 pm, edited 2/21/15 11:42 pm
VSG on 12/31/14

I have the same problem. People ask me how much more weight I want to lose and when I tell them they look at me like I have 2 heads. I usually reply with something along the lines of "Well, this is the weight goal given to me by my doctor." That usually shuts them up, lol.

 

Also, congrats on your success so far!! 

    

{ HW:275 | CW:166.6 | GW:145 | TL:108.4 }    

VSG on 12/31/2014 with Dr. John Kelly at UMASS Memorial.   

 
  

Valerie G.
on 2/22/15 12:25 am - Northwest Mountains, GA

I told people I only intended to reach the goal that the medical community considers a 'normal weight'...and that according to them, I'm still overweight....but be sure to thank them for the nice compliment.

Valerie
DS 2005

There is room on this earth for all of God's creatures..
next to the mashed potatoes

Laura in Texas
on 2/22/15 12:29 am

My doctor is keeping close tabs on me. Thanks for your concern.

They are not used to seeing you thinner. When you get to goal and stay there, comments like these stop.

Laura in Texas

53 years old; 5'7" tall; HW: 339 (BMI=53); GW: 140 CW: 170 (BMI=27)

RNY: 09-17-08 Dr. Garth Davis

brachioplasty: 12-18-09 Dr. Wainwright; lbl/bl: 06-28-11 Dr. LoMonaco

"May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears."

Julia HasHerLifeNow
on 2/22/15 12:52 am
VSG on 10/09/12

I just agreed with them and nodded and went about my business. If they get truly annoying a few choice 4 letter words spring to mind.

View more of my photos at ObesityHelp.com 5ft0; highest weight 222; surgery weight 208; current weight 120

     

    

T Hagalicious Rebel
Brown

on 2/22/15 12:56 am - Brooklyn
VSG on 04/25/14

I'd tell them I'm under my drs care, but thank - you for your concerns, then change the subject to something else. They're just not used to seeing you thin, they'll get used to it eventually.

No one surgery is better than the other, what works for one may not work for another. T-Rebel

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Sandy M.
on 2/22/15 1:50 am - Detroit Lakes, MN
Revision on 05/08/13

My favorite line is "thanks for the feedback".  That's it, leave it at that - they'll get the hint, or if they don't, they'll think you plan on taking their advice.

Height 5'4"  HW:223 Lap band 2006, revised to Sleeve 5/8/2013, SW:196

  

    

Gwen M.
on 2/22/15 2:23 am
VSG on 03/13/14

Acknowledge their comment and change the subject. Every single time. Eventually people will get the hint. 

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

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Grim_Traveller
on 2/22/15 2:51 am
RNY on 08/21/12

Every last one of us goes through this. The responses you got above are great. Just keep doing what you've been doing.

6'3" tall, male.

Highest weight was 475. RNY on 08/21/12. Current weight: 198.

M1 -24; M2 -21; M3 -19; M4 -21; M5 -13; M6 -21; M7 -10; M8 -16; M9 -10; M10 -8; M11 -6; M12 -5.

aharris30
on 2/22/15 10:29 pm
VSG on 05/13/14

Thank you guys for the response. I will definitely need these again. I don't know why it bothers me but it does. I know they are looking out for my best interest and no one has been mean about it, I guess I have just been really sensitive regarding that subject.

    

  

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