Tough love vs. Negativity and sarcasm
I have never heard you post anything that was mean since I have been on here. I hear you give your knowledge and tell it like it is, very factual,very precise. And honestly I think that is all anyone can do. I have seen some posts that I didn't necessarily think we're all that nice, but some people respond to a more direct, aggressive type of help. The best thing to do is take as much from each post as possible. I can guarantee if you left this forum there would be way more sad people, and probably people who would be so depressed they might go out and eat an ice cream sundae, maybe 2 ! We would all be laying on the ground beside the wagon in sugar euphoria wondering what the hell happened..........face it, you are loved. Please don't think of leaving us,we need your knowledge and support!!!
Smiles
Lisa
I leave and come back and I keep seeing posts like this. Take what you want and leave the rest. "Mean" people on this site should be the LEAST of everyone's worries along the WLS journey.
Like a lot!
BAND REMOVED 9-4-12-fought insurance to get sleeve and won! Sleeved 1/22/13! Five years out and trying to get that last 15 pounds back off.
Usually when someone posts something about people being mean, I'm guessing that everyone *****ads it doesn't think it applies to them, and that those you are aiming at are not hearing you because they probably don't think they are being mean, so I'm not sure what these kinds of posts accomplish except to elicit a cry of "Yes! we hate mean people!!" What else, i don't know. Am I one of those mean people? I have no idea because there is no specific example nor a person named. I don't ever sit and think "Wow, what I just wrote is really really mean, but I'm going to post it anyhow so I can screw up this person's day!" I don't think I ever been mean to anyone in my life, and if I've ever been told that I've hurt or upset someone, I'm deeply regretful and embarrassed. . I haven't written anything on this board that I wouldn't say to my best friend. Maybe at times, on line, it may come across as "mean" to some, but that's the reader's interpretation.
Maybe it's best to confront the offender directly. I just don't see how these kinds of posts accomplish what you want to accomplish since you are probably speaking to the choir.
VSG 10/26/12 • HEIGHT 5'4"
GW = 140 lbs met Month 9
CW = 133 lbs
Loss per Month: 8 > 9 > 7 > SURGERY > 15 > 10 > 10 > 10 > 7 > 5 > 6 > 6 > 5 > 5 > 0
It works if you work it; it sorta works if you sorta work it; and it doesn't work if you don't work it.
Sometimes I just take a forced break from the site. Do not let myself get on for a few days. You have to take the good with the bad. My feelings have only been hurt once (but I am a bleeding heart, so if I read and someone else has been hurt, it bothers me) and that is because someone misunderstood and misquoted me. Guess what, I blocked them. Ha! I found great freedom with that. They were very negative and almost every post I ever read by them was negative and very opinionated. I never responded to them, just blocked them. So, now I do not have to read a single thing they post on their own or on others. Love it. Try it! All personalities do not match, so if someone rubs you the wrong way, block them. Who needs negative people in their life, right? Anyway, feel the freedom of using the block feature. :O)
For some reason the Facts of Life theme is running through my head. :O)
“Not many of us are living at our best. We linger in the lowlands because we are afraid to climb the mountains. The steepness and ruggedness dismay us, and so we stay in the misty valleys and do not learn the mystery of the hills. We do not know what we lose in our self indulgence. What glory awaits us if only we had the courage for the mountain climb. What blessing we should find if only we would move to the uplands of God.? JRM
i remember my first time on the site (with a different name) i had lots of questions as i was just starting my journey. first thing that happened is i was told i wasn't using a good enough doctor. i got links of bad things the doctor i was choosing had done, and after much research i decided to go with another doctor. but boy did i feel mad when that happened. that was a great example of someone caring and reaching out, it felt bad at the time but i understood what they meant eventually.
i think the worst thing anyone ever said to me was i asked "when will i feel back to normal" meaning when will i be able to go back to work and have a bit more energy yadayada, i meant physically and got a very rude "you aren't ready for this surgery yet if you think you can continue on with what you deem normal' (or something like that.) totally didn't ask me to elaborate just jumped on me like i was some idiot.
i have this person blocked now and i continue to have a pleasant experience here! :)
