It not what you say...But it's how you say it.

For me...I have had people sugar coat things my entire life.  Oh, you don't look that big or...maybe you at that, but it  could have been worse! This contribute to my denial and how I became nearly 300 pounds.  This is why I am in this hospital bed.  I needed someone to tell me to put down the damn donut.  We were all killing ourselves with food.  Tough love is what most of us need.