still see the fat

hi I'm 5'10, weigh at the moment 188lbs, have been doing wee 4 1/2 months post-op and lost 63% of the total excess weight.

I see others photos and tthink they look fabulous and dont quite see myself this way.

I looked at a photo of a girl who isnt it onederland and thought she loos heaps better than me, whats up with that as I do acrry weight wee, or use to anyhows.

I'm being hard on myself but cant see the difference on many days, then some days I do!

Whats up, anyone elese like me, or am I'm a headcase???

I'm like you too gurl. Most of the time I like what I see in the mirror (for the most part, I'm just talking about my progress) but then I see pictures of me and I'm mortified. Something I definitely need to work on especially since I know deep down I am a lot smaller now than I was a year ago. It's the worst head trip for me!

I think that it's this.  Every Woman thinks she is fat...even if they aren't.  It's programed in.  I'm not even sure what it takes to get that out of your head.

Bahaha!!! I'm such a head case I deleted my own post!!! I feel the same way you do. I am 5'4" 161-159 lbs and I can see someone that is 20 lbs heavier than I am and they look like they are 50 lbs lighter than me... WTH??? I feel that my stomach is still the issue for me. Hopefully with this next 20 that comes off, my stomch will shrink... OR I'll be 140 with a big fat belly!!! LOL. Good luck to you!!!!

 I still think I look like the good year blimp on most days.... It takes a lot of mental energy to focus on the positives. Even super skinny girls tthink they are fat so we are perfectly normal :-p

Thanks guys I feel so much better now.

I believe that it is the same for most women. We always focus on what we believe are our flaws. If its not fat, it the dark circles under our eyes, our hair is not perfect, our teeth are crooked, wrinkles, nose not right, etc....  Especially if we have low self esteem... I think that if I saw a pic of myself without seeing my body I would think the person in the photo was better than me... Then of course when I learned it was me I would probably pick apart the flaws I see...  I try to focus on the good. I have a friend who wrote some beautiful things to me and about me when he learned how I really feel about myself...  I read it each morning and I start the day with more positive thoughts...    Take care...