HELP! I am freaking out!!

I told myself that it was not real unless I got the approval. Well, I got the approval so I guess it must be real. I am having a hard time wrapping my head around it. Frankly, I am terrified.

My surgery is just a few weeks away and I am beginning to panic about several different things.  I have been having doubts about my success and have fears about the surgery.  It is manifesting itself in me doubting my mental abilities to cope with everything.  

Because of work and family issues I was not able to go to the monthly bariatric meetings.  I am concerned that I have not built up any relationships with people who have had the surgery; people who can tell me that whatever I am experiencing is normal.  I don’t have anyone to talk me down off my ledge.  

I feel like I am going to wake up after surgery and be lost and not know what to do. I am worried that I don’t have anyone I don’t feel like I have a support network built up of people I can turn to when things get rough.  I’d be grateful for anyone who has had surgery or is about to have surgery to get to know me and help guide me through this uncharted journey.  Thank you. 

Do you have a spouse/partner/family/friend who can help you through the surgery?

Yes, I have a spouse, but I feel like I need someone with first hand experience.  Someone who has gone where I am about to go.  My spouse really doesn't know what to do when I freak out because she has no idea what I am going through. 

Sure sure.  That's why we're here, and that's why you gotta go to some support groups.  After your surgery, as soon as you feel able, attend them.  They are really terrific.

I have the same feelings you have. I haven't got my date yet but the fear is unbelievable. From what I have seen on here we are a family and though you can't go to all the meetings get in what you can and remember you have us!

I'm willing to bet that 80%+ can tell you that they shared your exact fears pre-surgery. I know I sure did. My main support is through this forum, and I've found the folks on here to be just amazing.

I'm not quite a month out, and I'm still having plenty of moments where I wonder what have I done! And then I come to this forum, read the success stories and get re-energized. Oh, that and watching that scale drop nearly every day It isn't easy at this stage, but it is all possible and I am certain it will be wonderfully worth it. For once I finally feel that I can win this game for good.

Best,
Mel

I am going in for surgery on Thursday so I know how it feels to be in panic mode lol. I am staying busy doing the things I need to do for myself so that I know when I get home I will be comfortable and only need to focus on my healing and recovery. I haven't been able to get to my support group meetings here either but have them on my calendar for after surgery so that they are like an appointment. Just like I couldn't miss my dietary meetings I can't miss support group meetings. I had to make up my mind what was important and if my family wants me around then my health has to take a major priority. And my mental health is a part of my total health and well being and support groups are a part of my mental well being.

OH is wonderful. I get most of my support here from the truly caring and kind people on these boards. I do go to my monthly support meetings, too, but have found many more answers here on the boards.

I had very similar worries and I think most of us do. I questioned whether I could do it, was I insane for having 85% of my stomach removed, and the big one was, " I've done so well on my pre op diet, do I really need to go through with this?" Then I remembered why I was on this journey and I found this great peaceful place inside to hang out until surgery and just went with it. I hope you find your peace, too.
We are always here for you!

Remember, you always have us here to lean on.

This forum literally has helped me through everything. This is where I really first even heard about VSG, it has gotten me thru my surgery, any scary times, even things non- weight loss related like breaking up with a boyfriend.  

So even if you cant make the support meetings you always have us, who understand your journey.

Freaking out before is normal. Being afraid, its very human. I was worried about dying, really scared..But every ounce of fear I have had has made me stronger. Its let me realize that this is a way to take back control forever and not slip back into the old unhealthy routine.

Try and stay positive, you will do great!!! In a year you will be so thankful you took this brave leap.

I'm waiting on approval and it should be next week. Every thing you are feeling I am. I'm excited, yet scared to death. However, I have to believe this is the right choice. I would be happy to help support you during these tough times. I have the same concerns that you do about having the right support group. By the soundsof it this is a great place to address our concerns and get support. Day at a time!!