Struggling as I can no longer eat my emotions away
It hard to explain exactly how I feel, I want to say angry, but that's not it really. I am not sure what this emotion is, I feel like I am in a whole new place I have never been. So I kind of lashed out at my husband yesterday and told him that he needs to try to understand what's happening here. I told him I can not eat this away and I am dealing with it. Of course then I start to cry, shee****'s not like I haven't cried before, but now they come very easy. I guess it's because food is not there to comfort me.
Anyway, I think I am just rambling.....but if anyone else has experienced this, please share. Thanks.
Do a search for hormone.
Maybe you can find those posts.
Hormones are a pain in the butt sometimes.
Also, I find a short bout of heavy treadmill, changes my hormones. I think its the endorphins generated. But it does help some when I get emotional.
I just get on the treadmill and force myself to keep going until I feel a change. Usually it's in about 20 minutes but sometime more.
It works.
Good luck.
Donna
Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple~Dr.Suess
Unfortunately, I was not able to deal with it on my own and after 4 months of the emotional roller coaster I have started seeing a therapist and was put on medication. Some of the suggestions I was given was to exercise, start journaling and make a list of other things to do when you want to turn to food to deal with the stress. My therapist told me to always keep that list handy and whenever I felt the urge to eat to just pick something from the list to do.
Please know that you are not alone in this. I wish I could assure you that it will get better but I haven't even been able to convince myself of that yet but I think we can get through it if we just work at it everyday.
HW/SW/GW/CW
296/277/180/185.6
Well, for me when I get like that, I try and keep busy by hanging with friends, or walking or something. But Honestly I have OA to go to, I also see a therapist and this totally helps. I
have to admit I havent seen my therapist in a bit but OA is somewhere where I can go and
get spiritual and get out of me and into someone else. Also it helps by doing reach out calls.
Just because I went through something, its not fare to lash out on my son because I am
going through something. I have to be careful and behave around the ones I love.
Walk walk walk helps me except for at Delamo because I end up spending way to much.
sometimes just a good cry and prayer helps and then I move on with my day.
I am sorry you are going through this, but this is part of your recovery. Its not just about the
weight loss, its our head that needs fixing.
you must call me please.......
lets go walking.
Love You,
Mary
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"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
My mantra during this time was "just feel it." Know that when you lash out and snap at people your brain is trying to help you avoid your feelings by turning them to anger. The best thing you can do is to sit and let the feelings come and try to work through them. Being able to do this without numbing out is going to be supremely uncomfortable at first, but it will stop as you figure out how to process emotion without food. It took me about a week of what I called "emotional diarrhea" before I leveled out. Prepare yourself for lots of spontaneous crying. Stuff is going to come out that you've spent years pushing down.
I know that you don't want therapy, but I couldn't have gotten through this without it. With my therapist's help I realized that I've been suffering through low level depression for years and using food to self medicate. Once I got therapy and got on low dose medication my life has completely turned around. Just something for you to think about, because it seems like the people who have the most problem with regain are the people who don't address the root cause of their eating issues. Most of us can't do that kind of work on our own. Good luck to you. Know that this will pass.
High weight: 276
Lowest weight: 155.2
Currently : 159-164
Couch potato to runner in 18 months!
And to Miss Mary, oh how I can't wait to meet you and be walking partners. I am going to call you right after the holidays, please keep my daughter in your thoughts and prayers as she is having WLS tomorrow. Not going our route, she is having gastric bypass. I think this is where some of my emotion is coming, I am so happy for her but as a mom really scared and worried. I pray her surgery and recovery is as smooth as mine was and she is on the losers bench right next to me!
Thank you all for your support!
So NOW is the time to not only FEEL your emotions but to get in touch with them and IDENTIFY waht emotions they are. That is the key because in order to deal with anything you have to FIRST note what the heck it is.
Are you angry, upset, sad, depressed and once you identify the emotion it's time to identiy the cause.
Try to remember food didn't COMFORT...it covered and stuffed away. You ate yourself into a situation and now it's time to stop hiding from ALL the emotions that you WILL have for the next several DECADES...get ready for the emotions you stuffed away to start running rampid.
Ms Shell
"WLS is only for people who are ready to move past the "diet" mentality" ~Alison Brown
"WLS is not a Do-Over (repeat same mistakes = get a similar outcome.) It is a Do-BETTER (make lifestyle changes you can continue forever.)" ~ Michele Vicara aka Eggface
