OK "LADIES" - anyone having "va-jay-jay" issues after WLS? Please...

This is a tough subject but here we go... I am now down 150# with only 3 to go to my goal. I'm 49 and have had 4 children the "natural" way. Wearing a size 10 and close to an 8 down from a 24-26. Here's my problem...

My wonderful 42 year old husband of 20 years LOVES sex as do I. It has always been so great-even when we were both fat. (He's lost 75# and has 30 to go). We have a very open communication about EVERYTHING-even the touchy subjects like this one. We have been enjoying new positions now and definitely go a lot longer than before...bye-bye to quickies...however we have noticed my "size" in the va-jay-jay has increased. Absolutely did not have this issue prior to weight loss but now I'm like the "grand canyon" and it's become a turn off to him and I'm very self conscious now about it. Has anyone else experienced this issue? PLEASE share if you have because I'm wondering where to go from here. Haven't had sex in over a month but at least we're talking about solutions.

Have done some research on vaginal rejuvenation so maybe that's the direction to head towards. I do see my surgeon this week and plan to talk with him about this issue as well as some other reconstructive surgery.

I really welcome your thoughts and feedback-especially if you've had this issue too.

I am very sorry you are going through this.  I am curious...do men gain weight in their penis?  If so, him losing 75lbs could be the problem and not you.  He could have lost some girth and now things feel different.  Good luck and please keep us updated as to what your docotr says.  Also, I would post this thread under the Sex before and after WLS board.  You may get some great info.

I posted there as well-great suggestion and I will keep you updated.

You have lost ALOT of weight and im sure things are affected.

I have heard of people complaining about their vaginal mound, the Mons, and surgery to lift it because its in the way, I havent heard of what you are explaining but maybe thats cause no one has the guts to bring it up.

im sorry you are dealing with such a sensitive issue. If you are self conscious about it and can afford surgery Id say more power to ya.

 If my DH told me that my Vajayjay was like the grand canyon I would tell him his dick was shrinking!!!  Do you do Kegals while having sex or "push out" ? Sometimes this makes a difference. He could also be "fishing" to see if you are open to anal sex...   

I'm so sorry if I gave the impression my husband used the "grand canyon" reference...that is my reference. He has been nothing but sensitive and supportive in looking for a solution so we BOTH are mutually fulfilled. It is a difficult topic to bring up and especially in a loving and sensitive way...which he has definately done. Kudos to him.

hhmmm....I have not lost the amount of weight you have, and I started out a lil higher, but have not had this issue as of yet. I know he feel different inside me and I have not had children so that makes a difference. I do do Keagels when ever I think about it to tighten things up. Also I have used a product by *slumber parties*  called "like a virgin" It tightens everything up for about 24 hrs and really does work. You might check into that.  After 4 children (baby sister was 10lb 11 3/4oz and ripped her to shreds)  my mother had to have reconstructive surgery on her vagina and rectal area and became almost a virgin again....so there are options! blessings on your journey!

When we gain weight, we gain everywhere including around the vaginal walls, making things feel tighter. A big weight loss can cause weight loss in that area too and that could be what is going on with you.  Someone did report that after a tummy tuck that area was tightend too.  Kegals may help until surgery, but talk with your GYN about it.  When you are ready for PS, talk to the surgeon too. 

Vaginoplasty fixes the muscle looseness (mostly from childbirth) and excess tissue as well.. it has a relatively long recovery, a couple months w/o sex is the norm.. Google for more info, but I would consider it if I had that issue. Just make sure you go to a specialist for this (obviously.)

Kegels for sure until that time, and kegels do work great, it just takes some time and commitment to doing them... just like any muscle, do them in a session until they tire out.. try two sessions a day for a few weeks and see if that helps any. I know I feel different to me, he doesn't notice much in that way.. we can go deeper which feels nice for both (no more belly) but otherwise, I've never had children, so that's a big part of it. Kegels really help though, at least for me I notice when I've not done them for a while..

 When men lose weight, usually their penis "grows" longer, but that is because they lose weight around the area.  Most "head shops" have some sort of cream/lotion that can tighten the vaginal area which could help before surgery. Also, try google for new sex positions that you can do, such as crossing your legs during sex. Hope it helps, good luck!